Friday, August 27, 2010

A great man

My husband is a great man.

He the most patient person I’ve ever met. He loves so true and deep. He is never threatened when I succeed – he encourages me, drives me, inspires me. He is gentle and calm and when I see a bug (and jump on the chair screaming), he will pick it up and take it outside rather than kill it. When I have a problem and ask him what I should do, he is always, always, ALWAYS right.

He works 12 hour days most of the year. And after working a full day, he walks in the door and never takes even a second for himself – he immediately has his arms outstretched for our son, and comes to kiss me before even putting his keys down.

He worked from home all summer and we were together all day, almost every day, and I never get tired of being with him. He is my very best friend and he is the best person I know.

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My husband is the man he is because of another great man. My father-in-law raised three amazing children, my husband the oldest of them.

We had a rough holiday season last year – first my father-in-law was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Then only weeks later, we lost my mother-in-law.

It was a punch to the gut – twice. But we used the news of his cancer to live differently – we saw my father-in-law as much as possible. He lived with us on and off for months, so our son got to know him and see him often. Even though he was in his 80’s and couldn’t really play with the Bub, Papa was one of his very favorite people in the world. (There is something about Grandpas, isn’t there?)

We celebrated with one final Mexican Fiesta (he would cook for our friends once a year):

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We took a ton of pictures, wrote down every recipe, and listened to his instructions (very carefully!) and stories for hours.

We lived. He LIVED for those nine months.

It is with a very heavy heart that I tell you my father-in-law passed away early yesterday morning. We were able to prepare, somewhat, but many of you know you can never prepare enough.

Oddly enough, it wasn’t the cancer that caused his death. He fought it like a tiger. A very stubborn, determined tiger. :)

But the cancer is what allowed us to spend as much time with him as we could over the past nine months. Isn’t that funny how the worst news you could get turns out to be a blessing in disguise?

Without the cancer diagnosis, we may not have seen him as much. We may have let a couple weeks go by without visiting. We may have let a week pass without talking to him. My son may not know to grab his drumstick (or any long item) and wobble around the house with a “cane” like Papa.

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My father-in-law was a GREAT man. He came to the USA as a teenager, became a United States citizen, and worked his tail off to make the American dream possible for his children. He and his wife raised three fantastic kids – two boys and a girl.

He made my husband sit at a piano from age five, because he saw his talent, even at that young age. My husband is an amazing music teacher and composer today because his father believed in him and pushed him to be all he could be.

He created a GREAT man when he raised my husband. My husband will create a GREAT man in our son with what he has learned from his father.

For that I will be eternally grateful to him. I admired and loved him so. I wish I could have thanked him a few hundred more times for what he has given to me.

For now, he is heaven, cooking up some fabulous Mexican for all of his loved ones. :)

We love you so very much Dad.

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  1. I am so sorry to hear that, Sarah. I'm glad you all got some quality time together this past year, and I'm sure (as you are) that your father-in-law with be with your family forever in legacy.

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  2. hi there,

    i'm sorry to hear about your family's loss. we lost someone dear to us from pancreatic cancer as well 2 years ago and still think about them everyday. my thoughts are with you and your family. stay strong.

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  3. Our sympathies to you and your family.

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  4. My thoughts are with you both at this time. My father passed away in March after a long battle with cancer and I know how tough it can be even knowing the end is near.

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  5. So sorry for your loss. What a beautiful post and tribute to a wonderful man. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

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  6. So sorry for your loss. What a beautiful post and tribute to a wonderful man. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

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  7. I'm very sorry for you and your family. It sounds like the last 9 months were wonderful. Your post is a great tribute to your father-in-law.

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  8. Wow, what an awesome tribute to what must have been an awesome man! I am so sorry for you loss, but so thankful that you were blessed by such a wonderful "father-in-love"! Not everyone is so blessed...cherish the memories and make many more in his honor! Thanks for sharing!

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  9. So sorry for your loss, Sarah. What a beautiful tribute to him.

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  10. What a blessing to be able to spend time with him as much as you did! What a legacy he left in your husband and knowing that that will be passed to your son will hopefully comfort you all during this tough time.

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  11. A wonderful tribute to all three of the generations. Please tell your hubs I am so sorry that he has lost both his parents in such a short time. I also believe he is in a much better place although that doesn't make you miss him any less. You are truly blessed to have had him in your life, and it sounds like he has blessed you with a wonderful husband.
    This time will be tough, take advantage of the time with family to remember those wonderful times together.
    Take care of yourself, I understand how hard it is to see those we love deal with heartache.
    gail

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  12. That's a beautiful tribute, Sarah! And a great reminder to actually LIVE each day and not take them for granted. Thanks for sharing. Sending prayers and cyberhugs!

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  13. Beautifully written Sarah~ praying for you guys!

    Lindsay @ A Design Story

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  14. So many prayers are going out to your family. Your words describe an amazing man and you've done a beautiful tribute to honor him.

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  15. God bless you and your family. It is so easy to just let life happen, it is a blessing from God when you are given notice and have time to slow down and put that person at the top of the list. I knew for four years that my Mama was leaving and oh the memories we made during those four years. She taught me so much during that time, I have such sweet memories of cooking with her, canning with her, singing hymns. We are the lucky ones, we had notice, we had time.

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  16. You and your family have my deepest sympathy. Beautiful post...and beautiful memories.

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  17. Prayers and hugs going your way!!!!

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  18. What a beautiful post. He sounds like an amazing dad, granddad, and man. And no matter how "prepared" we are to lose someone we love who is ill, it's always tough. Sending you hugs!

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  19. So sorry for your family's loss. Thanks for sharing your loving tribute.

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  20. So, so sorry for your loss, but how wonderful that you were able to recognize the time you had left and to truly make the most of it.

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  21. What a lovely post. Very sorry for your loss, but extremely happy for your gain as well.

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  22. Oh Sarah, I am SO sorry for your families loss...my heart just aches for you! :( Please send my condolences to your husband as well...I just can't imagine losing a parent....I'm very blessed to still have both of mine. I will keep you all in my prayers and ask God to give you peace and the ability to hold on to all those precious memories that are still so fresh in your mind. Thanks for sharing two great men in your life with us....what an honor. :)

    Big Hugs to your whole family
    Missy

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  23. I am so so sorry for your loss. Not sure if that means much coming from someone you don't even know, but please know that you will be in my prayers. Your father-in-law sounds like a wonderful man and you are so blessed to have had him!

    For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

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  24. What a touching tribute to your father-in-law...he's lucky to have such a great family to pass on his legacy...

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  25. What a lovely Tribute. Our thoughts and our prayers are with you and your family. We are so sorry for you loss.

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  26. I am so sorry for your loss! My thoughts are with you and your family! :(

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  27. What a sad, but loving story you shared! You can tell you were very lucky to have had him for the yrs you did! He will give you fond memories! Take your time and remember.......

    Cindy
    xo

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  28. What a beautiful tribute to a great man! May these wonderful memories feel your family's heart. Thanks for sharing!
    HUGS

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  29. God Bless you and your family. I am so happy that you embraced this challenge and made it an opportunity to live life and love family. They are sooo important. Cherish those moments and remember them forever! My deepest sympathy for your loss but what a gain you had making those memories, thats what matters!

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  30. Praising a good God for the quality time that you got to spend with your father in law.

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  31. I am so very sorry for your loss. He sounds like a truly great man and my thoughts are with your family.

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  32. So sorry for your loss, but so happy that you got spend those last few months with him. He looks like he was a sweet little man!

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  33. So very sorry for your loss, Sarah. Pancreatic cancer is a horrible thing. It's what took my father from me when I was in my teens. I'm so very pleased that you all cherished the time you had left with your father-in-law and let the Bub make some special memories with him. I'll be saying a prayer for peace for you guys today. Love to you.

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  34. my heart aches for you and your family. thoughts and prayers for you all. :(

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  35. Blessings of comfort to you and your family right now. You father in law would be so proud of the words you have just spoken What a gift, the great legacy he has left behind So very sorry

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  36. i am so sorry for your lost and my prayers are with you.

    that was a beautiful post about some beautiful people.

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  37. My deepest sympathy to you and your family. What a wonderful tribute to him, you write beautifully. Brought me to tears. Bless you.

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  38. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family, Sarah. Beautifully written post {hugs} Stephanie Lynn

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  39. Beautiful words about both your husband and his father!Prayers are with you & your family today!

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  40. Sarah-- I have honestly been driving the kiddos in the car back and forth to school, and it's popped in my head several times "I wonder how Sarah's father in law is doing. . ."

    I'm so sorry. Prayers to your family and your husband's family at such a hard time.

    HUGS

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  41. Reading this brought tears to my eyes. I am so sorry for your loss. You have such a positive perspective on this and today he is truly with God in paradise. Our hearts go out to you and your family!!

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  42. This post gave me goosebumps. I am so sorry for your huge loss. I will definitely say a prayer for you and your family!

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  43. I am so sorry for your family's loss. Pancreatic cancer touched our lives as well and took my beloved Mother in law, who was more like a mom to me. Like you, I am thankful for the days that we had. I hope you, your husband, your little boy and the rest of your family finds some comfort and peace in those memories. (((HUGS)))

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  44. The beauty in this post is simply stunning. What a wonderful tribute on his lasting legacy! Love and Prayers for your family!

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  45. What a lovely tribute.

    I'm so sorry for your loss.

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  46. Sarah, I can't say this enough or strongly enough what an AWESOME tribute to your father in law. What a wonderful legacy he leaves behind knowing that he has instilled the very virtues of himself in your husband that will no doubt be passed along to your son and future grandchildren.

    Celebrating his "life's work" is an incredible way to thank this man.

    Thanks for the post. In the end knowing that you might eventually "lose" him in person left you all with such wonderful memories of inspirational time spent together. You're right sometimes these things turn out to show us what we are meant to live our lives like and enjoy every moment.

    Teri
    in Virginia!

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  47. I am so sorry for your loss. This was a wonderful tribute.

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  48. Tears in my eyes and my heart is heavy. What a precious tribute to your Father-in-law. He sounds like such a special person. I am so sorry for your loss, but like you I am so thankful for the blessing he gave you all during the last 9 months. God Bless. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs, Marty

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  49. Love and prayers being sent to your family. {{{big hugs}}}

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  50. So very sorry for your loss Sarah, praying for you and your family. Your tribute was beautifully written, he sounds like a Wonderful man :)

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  51. Praying hard for all of you during this difficult time. It's such a blessing that you had some time to prepare (although you're right, it's never enough) and spend REAL QUALITY time with him while you could. I lost my mom 3 short months ago to breast cancer, after a very hard 2-year battle. (And boy did she FIGHT!) But I firmly believe that the cancer didn't win... the CANCER lost, and HEAVEN won! She's pain-free, having the time of her life in eternal happiness, looking at her watch and waiting on the rest of us to hurry up and join her at the party already. :) And I'm sure your sweet father-in-law is too! My Momma loved her some Mexican food (and some Margaritas!)... maybe they'll get together and cook up a storm up there! :) I'm thankful every single day for the 24 years of beautiful memories we could share and the legacy that she left behind in me, my 3 older siblings, and their children. My parents had a real life love story, and I'm so blessed to be a witness to it!! Lots of hugs to all of you.

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  52. I'm sorry for your loss, but glad that ya'll were able to spend time together in that time. What a beautiful tribute. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
    Michele

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  53. So, so sorry for your loss, Sarah. I'm crying as I write this since my father passed in February from cancer, but as you said, his diagnosis was a jumpstart for my brothers, sisters and I to spend more time with each other. We all had been very close to Dad and saw and spoke to him often, but we didn't take time to spend with each other. His illness brought us together again, and his last wish was that we would try to stay close. We're determined to honor his life and his last wish by making more time for each other.

    I hope you and your family find peace and comfort together.

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  54. What a great legacy your dear falther-in-law left behind. I lost my mother two months ago, and you are right, you are never prepared to lose them.

    I'm glad you were able to make the most of the time you had left with him.

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  55. Oh, sweetie, I am so, so sorry for your family's loss. {{hugs}}

    He sounds like a fabulous man to have had in your lives...and I know he will be missed greatly.

    Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

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  56. Wow. I am so so so sorry for the loss your family has suffered. I don't know you personally or your dad-in-law, but I sure feel like I do after reading this. Thank you for sharing and deepest condolences. I am so happy to hear that you all got the most of his last few months. My father's best friend died just over a year from pancreatic cancer and my dad took the same path you did, spending as much time with him as possible. I know what a terrible disease that can be, but I am so happy that you all got so much positivity out of it. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family!

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  57. So sorry for your loss. That was an unbelievably beautiful tribute to your husband and father-in-law!!
    ~Jaimee

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  58. So sorry for your loss.

    I'm so happy that you all (especially your son) got to spend such great quality time with him!

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  59. Sarah I am so sorry to hear that! What a difficult time for you and your family. My thoughts are with you... I wanted to tell you that this was an incredible post. A great tribute to your husband and the man that shaped him. Thank you so much for sharing!

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  60. First and foremost, I luvv your blog. You are a very talented chica. Even when I’m having a no so fabulous day…I can count on your blog to give me a chuckle (side note: another good one is http://catalogliving.net/ ). As for today’s post, it was a tear jerker and a wonderful tribute. I’m sincerely sorry for your family’s loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to your family. May you all find strength & courage to get you through these difficult times.

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  61. What a lovely tribute to your father in law, and husband. I feel much the same about my MIL who almost single-handedly raised my hubby who has turned out to be the best dad imaginable; one he never had himself. sniff. Hope you guys have a wonderful weekend.

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  62. So sorry to hear about your father-in-law. But what a blessing to have those nine months of extra closeness. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  63. A beautiful tibute to your family. It is wonderful that you were able to take the time to spend with each other and appreciate the quality time together. Those moments, as with all memories, will last forever. During your time of sorrow I wish for you the comfort of those wonderful memories and the time spent together.

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  64. I am so sorry for your family's loss, Sarah, but so happy you got to experience such a person in your and your family's life! I am so glad that you got to fully enjoy time with your FIL these past months, that your Bub got to know his Grandpa, and that your husband got to remember why he is the man he is today.

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  65. Oh, Sarah. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. But I am very, very happy to hear of your gain. What a blessing that you had some time to spend devoted to making the most of things with your father-in-law. Life would be better if we lived like that all the time, wouldn't it?

    I love stories like the story of your father-in-law--someone who came to the U.S. ready to work and make the most of a grand opportunity. How fortunate you are to have married a man who was raised by such a hard-working, wonderful gentleman. And now you get to pass those values down your son! That's the way it should be.

    God bless you and your husband as you grieve. May you be comforted by your memories and the knowledge that many people love you.

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  66. Sarah, what a truly beautiful tribute to your family!! I'm so sorry for your loss - sending prayers your way. Despite this difficult time you still managed to be uplifting and grateful and exude love and blessings!! Thanks for the gentle reminder to embrace each day surrounded by the ones you love most! Continued blessings

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  67. So sorry to hear that Sarah. What a sweet face he had. I love the shot of him and your son. You can see the resemblance! I lost my own father this year and I know how hard it is. Hugs to you and your husband.

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  68. I'm usually a lurker, but I HAVE to comment....that was a wonderful, heartfelt post that moved me more than words can say. I write this with tears in my eyes, and I do NOT cry easily!!! You made the most of a difficult situation...I applaud your honesty and bravery!!! May you find strength in the wonderful memories you have:) I'm sooo sorry for your loss.

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  69. I'm so sorry for your loss, but so glad you have so many happy memories to smile through your tears...

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  70. My heart hurts to read this....especially since we are battling cancer in our family. My sweet little three year old son has a rare, aggressive soft tissue and muscle cancer. Diagnosed in March of this year. The tears rolled as I read about how this man impacted the way you lived. My son is doing the same for us. God bless you all during this time!

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  71. What a beautiful tribute to your father-in-law. My prayers go out to your entire family.

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  72. You have honored your Father in law, your husband as well as his siblings with this tribute. Be glad for the time you had I am sure his family fulfilled his every dream for his wonderful life!

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  73. What a sweet and touching entry. I am so sorry about your father in law. It is truly hard to let go of our family. He sounds like a wonderful man as well as your husband. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  74. What a sweet and touching entry. I am so sorry about your father in law. It is truly hard to let go of our family. He sounds like a wonderful man as well as your husband. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  75. I'm so sorry. I pray that God continues to give you peace and comfort as you deal with such a great loss.

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  76. What a wonderful tribute to your husband and father in law. What a legacy to leave for your son. I am sorry about your loss.

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  77. What a sweet sweet tribute to Papa! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  78. I am so sorry for your loss. This was a really beautiful tribute to someone who sounds like he was a great man.

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  79. He looks like a sweetheart of a man. So glad you got to spend the time with him like you did. Sorry for your family's loss.

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  80. That was an amazing story. I am so glad for you and your family that you got to spend so much time with your father-in-law.

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  81. So sorry for your loss. Sounds like your father in law can be proud of the legacy he left and you can say goodbye with no regrets about the time you spent with him.

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  82. Such sweet memories. It is hard to lose a loved one, but you put it best... the blessing was in the time you had with him. Not everyone gets that special blessing. My heart goes out to you and your family.

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  83. I am sorry for your loss. At least you made choices and made good memories in the past nine months. I lost my Dad from cancer four months ago...he was diagnosed seven years ago and given six months to live, so I felt blessed to have that much more time with him...
    Such a sweet post about your husband and your father in law.
    Thanks for sharing such an important part of your world.

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  84. so sorry for your loss & such a wonderful tribute!!!!

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  85. I'm so sorry for your lost. He reminds me of my own Dad. Always remember the beautiful time you had together. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. And please tell the hubs that his father will never be gone, because those who we love never truly leave us...the live inside of those who loved them.

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  86. What a sweet looking man; I'm sure he will be sorely missed. My deepest condolences.

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  87. Oh, Sarah, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of such a wonderful man. May the Lord flood you all with His peace...wrap it around you like a blanket...and His mercy and grace surround you.

    Guerrina in Ledyard, CT

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  88. I, too, am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like your FIL was an amazing man and father!

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  89. So very sorry for you and your families loss.

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  90. Sympathies and a few tears rolling down my cheek; what a beautiful tribute you have written...

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  91. Sarah,

    I'm so so SO sorry for your huge loss. He sounds like he was such an amazing person. You are lucky to have had him in your life. You wrote such a beautiful post about him and literally brought tears to my eyes and choked me up.

    {{HUGS}} You and your family are in my thoughts.

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  92. Sarah, I am so sorry for your loss. You and your husband are in my thoughts. I am so glad that you had those special nine months. Glad you have the memories, the stories, and the recipes to remind you of him. And especially that you gave your husband and he has you to help him get through what I am sure is a really hard time for him.

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  93. Wow, what a very very touching post. I am sorry to hear about your families loss. I was touched by your words of love. What a beautiful family you have.

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  94. So sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family at this time.

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  95. Sarah and family,

    I am sorry for your loss but so glad you had an opportunity to love and live the past year!! Be blessed and know you are in our prayers.

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  96. I'm so sorry for your loss, that was a most moving tribute to two fine men.

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  97. My condolences to your family at this difficult time. My family has lost three members due to various cancers in the last few years and a couple more to heart ailments. You are very right when you say that these diagnosis can be blessings in disguise and help you see the need to keep these people close and grow more memories to nourish in your life when they are gone. Be well.

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  98. Sarah,

    I am so very sorry to hear about your father in-law, and you are right...we are never prepared. You certainly gave a wonderful tribute to him in your post today and I'd say you were all lucky to have had each other.
    God Bless you and your family.

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  99. What a beautiful and touching post. My heart goes out to you and your family.

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  100. my sincere sympathies for you and your family

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  101. What a beautiful tribute!! Tears here. So sorry for your loss. Take some time and hug those men in your life (big and small) together you'll get through the sadness stronger and with more memories of the man you loved and lost.

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  102. What a beautiful, beautiful way to look at your dear Dad's passing. He is always with all of you. My sincere sympathies.

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  103. So sorry to hear about your loss. What an amazing man and you are lucky to have had the time with him that you did.

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  104. What a beautiful story and a wonderful way to spend the time of generations together learning and loving.

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  105. I am so sorry for your loss. I too lost my father in law to pancreatic cancer. He was a wonderful man also. It definitley changes your out look on life. It makes you live every day to the fullest and always tell your family you love them everyday.

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  106. I am SO sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom suddenly and never got to say all the things I wanted to. Sounds like your FIL's legacy will long be remembered. Praying for your family. PS. You wrote a beautiful post honoring him. The love and admiration shone through so bright!

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  107. Long time stalker, first time responder. What a sweet, honoring, respectful piece. You made me cry grateful tears for my own version of your father-in-law.

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  108. I'm so sorry for what a very long year you have had. Inspiring how you changed the challenges into something positive for your family.

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  109. I am so sorry for your loss. May god hold you and your family in his hands, and take the pain from your hearts.

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  110. I'm sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful man and a great example too. I really believe you'll see him again and it will be a fabulous reunion with the whole family.

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  111. My condolences for your deep loss. Thank you for sharing, even in the midst of your grieving and celebrating his life.

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  112. Love & prayers to you & your family in your time of loss...

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  113. Keeping your family in my thoughts at this difficult time.

    What a lovely tribute to your father-in-law and an important reminder to treasure each and every moment while you can.

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  114. So very sorry for your family's loss.

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  115. so sad for you and your husband. they talk about mothers and sons, but when my huband's dad passed away, i learned about father's and sons. i'm glad your son knew his grandfather even for a short time.

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  116. I am so sorry for your loss but can tell that your father in law was blessed to live surrounded by family who loved and cared for him deeply.

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  117. I am so sorry for your loss. Your family will be in my prayers. I know what you mean about the cancer. My Mom battled breast cancer last year. Though it was treatable, she had many complications with the treatments. Thank God we still have her today! I don't take a moment for granted, and spend as much time as we can with her and make sure that my kids know their Grandma and have that special bond with her. So glad you got that time with him, and photographed and recorded those memories for the bub. He sounds like he was a great man indeed!

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  118. Sorry to hear of your loss but it was wonderful to hear how you were able to spend so much time together with him. Those memories will last a lifetime! You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.------Ashley

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  119. I am so sorry to hear this awful news. He sounds like a wonderful man. He'll live on through your husband and son. My thoughts and prayers to you and yours.

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  120. I'm sorry you have experienced such a loss. Treasured memories and sad circumstances. Thanks for taking the time to honor a great man. His wisdom will keep going for generations.

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  121. Sarah,
    So sorry to hear of the loss of your father in law. I know how much he meant to each of you. Our thoughts and prayers are with the entire family. (((HUGS)))

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  122. Sarah, so sorry for your families loss, I'm sure you will all miss him, but know that he is smiling down at you from above, take care, Chris....

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  123. I am so sorry for your loss, but I loved hearing how much you loved him and his example. I am so glad that you all LIVED for those last 9 months- and had one final Mexican Fiesta.

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  124. So very sorry for your loss.

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  125. Sarah,
    What a beautiful tribute to your father-in-law. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this with us. It certainly reminded me to hug those I hold dear.
    Meg

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  126. What a beautiful tribute to your father-in-law and your husband! You two are a precious couple. I know you'll be able to be there for him while you both grieve together. HUGS to you!

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  127. I am so sorry for your loss. Your tribute was so moving. It inspires me to hold close to my own aged loved ones.

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  128. I am so sorry for your loss. I'm very happy that you all were able to spend some wonderful time with your FIL though. Those are cherished memories!

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  129. Oh, Sarah. How incredibly blessed you are to have been allowed to share a part of your life with this man -- and benefit from his wisdom as a parent. Tears to my eyes.

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  130. So sorry for your loss. So sorry. We lost my father in law and brother very suddenly, did not get those last times with them and we regret that every day. The good memories will help. Bless you, sweetheart.

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  131. I'm so sorry for your loss... but that was a beautiful tribute to him!

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  132. I'm so sorry about your father-in-law. But I understand. My mother-in-law was diagnosed with terminal liver cancer in October 2000, on year after my husband and I got married. She died in May 2001. We spent every night at her home, from dinnner through her bedtime at 10/10:30, even when she had in home care. We'd have tea and dessert wit her, watch some TV with her, or just sit in the room with her while she napped.
    But we were there. Every day. I can't forget that I missed one night for a work event I couldn't miss.
    This was such a gift to me, to get to know her and spend that time with her. I wouldn't be able to spend the next years with her, so...
    What a gift for your husband and for your son, too, to be able to spend that extra time with their dad and grandpa, and for you, too.
    You'll all have such beautiful memories to keep near to your heart...

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  133. I am so sorry for your loss. Grandpas are special aren't they. My condolences to your wonderful family.

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  134. I'm so sorry about your father-in-law. But I understand. My mother-in-law was diagnosed with terminal liver cancer in October 2000, on year after my husband and I got married. She died in May 2001. We spent every night at her home, from dinnner through her bedtime at 10/10:30, even when she had in home care. We'd have tea and dessert wit her, watch some TV with her, or just sit in the room with her while she napped.
    But we were there. Every day. I can't forget that I missed one night for a work event I couldn't miss.
    This was such a gift to me, to get to know her and spend that time with her. I wouldn't be able to spend the next years with her, so...
    What a gift for your husband and for your son, too, to be able to spend that extra time with their dad and grandpa, and for you, too.
    You'll all have such beautiful memories to keep near to your heart...

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  135. Brought tears to my eyes. How blessed you were to know him and how blessed all of you will continue to be as his legacy lives on. It is so hard to lose someone we love, no matter when, no matter why. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  136. I am so sorry for your family's loss. I, too, have a great husband, and can appreciate your tribute to your father-in-law. What a blessing to have the influence of such a godly man to train up your husband. My sympathies to your family.

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  137. Sarah,

    I am sorry for the loss of such a great man in your family and proud for you that the legacy lives on. It is refreshing to hear that you loved your father-in-law, too many times we hear the opposite of people, which I never understood being that they are the spouse's family. Blessings to you all!

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  138. I am very sorry to hear of your FIL's passing! I know exactly how you feel. We just found out this week that my FIL has pancreatic cancer. He is in his late 80's too! He's has always been the anchor to my husband family. His mother passed 19years ago after being sick for years with Parkinsons or Hodgkins disease. As I said it has been my FIL that has held everyone together with his sure and calm demeanor. He since remarried and travels quite a bit. He actually survied an emergency 6 valve by pass about 3 years ago too while out of town. They have given him 6 months to live and surgery to remove the cancer is very, very risky, several doctors advised against it but one surgeon has said he can do it. Hard to know what to do. He does not want Chemo. This is all in the early stages of figuring out what to do and we are all still in shock. But like you suddenly spending more time together seems very important and appropiate. This generation has been through so much haven't they and have so much to offer us. Every memory is such a blessing! I will keep your family in my prayers, again I am so sorry for your loss.

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  139. Sarah, I am so sorry for your family's loss. I can sympathize with you. My dad was diagnosed with ALS, a fatal neurological disease. It was a horrible diagnosis but it was a blessing in disguise, as you said. We spent the next 2 years enjoying vacations together, family dinners, etc. We truly were blessed with and enjoyed that time we were given, but of course our hearts were still broken when he died because, as you said, you're never really prepared for it. My thoughts and prayers are with you all as you grieve.

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  140. Sarah, I am so sorry for your family's loss. I can sympathize with you. My dad was diagnosed with ALS, a fatal neurological disease. It was a horrible diagnosis but it was a blessing in disguise, as you said. We spent the next 2 years enjoying vacations together, family dinners, etc. We truly were blessed with and enjoyed that time we were given, but of course our hearts were still broken when he died because, as you said, you're never really prepared for it. My thoughts and prayers are with you all as you grieve.

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  141. I am so very sorry for your loss...clearly you shared a deep love with your father in law. I just wanted to thank you for sharing such a personal and beautifully touching tribute! What a gift this post will be to your son one day.

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  142. I wish Gods blessings upon you and your family as your hearts grieve...what a blessing we have in family and their legacy. My prayers are for your family.

    Melissa (I'm just in Columbus, IN - so not too far to come and drag you away for some Goodwill therapy :) .

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  143. what a beautiful tribute...to both father and son.

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  144. The memories you made are what will sustain you through the difficult times ahead. Please know that my heart goes out to you and your lovely family.

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  145. Thank you for bring able to share the joys that your father in law brought even as you go through such an emotional time. Yes, to great men! I will be praying for you and your family, especially for Bub.

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  146. Sarah,
    I am so sorry about your father-in-law. What a blessing that you got to spend so much time with him the last year. I hope your bub is not taking this to hard.
    Bonnie

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  147. I'm so very sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in our prayers. What a blessing God gave to all of you, in your FIL.
    xoxox
    Sandi

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  148. {HUGS} Nothing else much to say. Thanks for putting your heart out here on your blog.

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  149. You brought tears to my eyes. In loss you have gained so much. And what a wonderful legacy he left behind.

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  150. That was a beautiful post, I am so sorry for your loss but grateful that you spent the last nine months making these wonderful memories that you and your family will cherish forever.

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  151. What a sweet tribute! Sounds like an amazing man! Praying for your family as you grieve.

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  152. What a sweet tribute! Sounds like an amazing man! Praying for your family as you grieve.

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  153. What a sweet tribute! Sounds like an amazing man! Praying for your family as you grieve.

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  154. What a sweet tribute! Sounds like an amazing man! Praying for your family as you grieve.

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  155. So sorry for your loss. My sincere sympathies to you and all of your family.

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  156. Sarah,
    What a heartwarming, wonderful tribute to your father-in-law. He sounds like a wonderful man, a great inspiration, and a great role model for your own son.

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  157. I am sorry for your loss. Your post today was so heart-felt. I've never posted here before today but I couldnt let today pass without commenting. All my best to you and your family.

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  158. Big hugs to you and your family during this difficult time.
    Your dad-in-law sounds like he was such a great guy, such a wonderful man to emulate.
    I think that is one of the beauties of this life- you get to pass on all your good qualities to the next generations.

    May you guys find peace in your hearts.

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  159. What a sweet tribute-to both your husband and his dad. You touched my heart.

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  160. Oh Sarah... I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. I'll be praying for you.

    Donna

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  161. Sending you love at this difficult time. Thank you for sharing your father-in-law with me. I cry for your loss but smile at all he gave you.

    (((HUGS)))

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  162. What a blessing and opportunity you had with his diagnosis. You are so right, we are all guilty of letting life get in the way of taking the time to savor the things and people that truly matter.

    You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you so much for sharing your family with us.

    Gayle

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  163. What a beautiful love story and life lesson from you and your family!

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  164. Please accept my condolences. Our family has also gone through the journey of losing a loved one to cancer, and it is a heartrending road. Your Dad-in-love sounds like a wonderful man, most especially because he raised such a loving son.

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  165. Sarah, I'm so sorry. What wonderful men you have in your life and Bub will grow up to be an amazing man, too. Cherish your memories and cling to each other for support and comfort.

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  166. You are a blessing. Thank you for sharing.

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  167. My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family. Your post was so touching and heartfelt. My God be with you during this time.

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  168. I am so sorry for your loss. Will pray for your family during this time. Enjoy those memories.

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  169. I will say a special prayer for you and your family. You are truely "when life gives you lemons, make lemonade". God bless.

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  170. What a beautiful tribute to your father-in-law. My prayers are with you as you celebrate his life and mourn his death.

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  171. I am so sorry for your loss but your father in law sounds like he was a really great man. I will be thinking of you and your family during this time.
    Zizete

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  172. such a beautiful legacy your father in law has left behind. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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  173. I am so sorry to hear about your father in law. I remember when you posted about him getting diagnosed. He is no longer in pain but it is still sad for your husband and all his loved ones. Prayers your way.

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  174. What a sweet post. I am so sorry for your loss. What a Blessing, legacy & gift he left you.
    Thank You for sharing just a little of him with us. I imagine that this is going to be hard weekend for you & your sweet family. I will be praying for you.
    Blessings..... K.

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  175. So sorry for your family's loss. But so happy you got a great guy out of the deal!! Thank you for sharing!!

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  176. I am so sorry for your loss of 'Dad'. Losing a parent really is one of the most devastating life experiences I have gone through. God bless your famly at this time.

    But, what a wonderful tribute!

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  177. What a sweet tribute...I'm so sorry for your loss.

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  178. What a beautiful tribute to your father in law-how blessed you all were to have such a wonderful man in all of your lives and it sounds like he was lucky enough to know how much you cared-what wonderful memories you will have of him and great stories you will be able to tell your son! Thoughts and prayers are with your family.

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  179. You bring so much joy to our lives everyday with your posts, that we truly all are saddened by your loss of your father-in-law. Just keep the precious memories that you got to experience through this hard time, it will ease some of the pain.
    My mother-in-law fell and broke her hip which they couldnt fix and she passed away shortly afterwards and 4 months later my mother passed away from colon cancer(from a blood clot unexpectedly). It was truly hard for our family to go through both passing of our mothers in such a short time. So I truly know the heart ache your family is going through and know my and your blog friends are with you.

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  180. The picture is priceless... beautiful. It must have given him great joy to be so very, very loved in his lifetime.

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  181. What a beautiful post and such sweet words about your father-in-law. He sounds like he was a wonderful man- thank you for writing about him! I can only hope that at the end of my life that I make a difference like it sound like he has in your life (and many others it seems!). What a legacy he has to pass on!
    I also appreciated your kind and loving words about your hubby- we need more of those in this world with so many broken relationships and "husband-bashing". God Bless you and your family, I'll be praying for you and your hubby during this time of grief! Hugs!- Kristine

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  182. Sarah,

    I am truly sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers. What a beautiful tribute. You should certainly keep a copy for the Bub too, for when he is older.
    Dawn

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  183. I am so very sorry for your loss. By reading the wonderful tribiute you wrote, he will continue to live you all. Blessings,Sarah. (That last photo is prescious!)

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  184. I am so sorry, Sarah. I just lost my dad last month and I treasure the moments he spent with my sons - Abuelitos are just the best!

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  185. I so deeply sorry for your loss.

    I know what it is to be blessed with a wonderful father in law.

    Love to you and yours from Ohio.

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  186. Dear Sarah,
    Thank you so very much for sharing with us! I am so sorry for your loss but know you were blessed beyond words by your grandfather. I am so happy that you had the time you did with him and how you were able to develop such a close bond! We will be praying for you!!

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  187. I am sorry for your loss Sarah. You have honored him WELL.

    My Auntie said once "if it wasn't so good (our life together), it wouldn't hurt so much. So I am grateful for the pain. It means it was wonderful."

    Praying for you and your family.
    God bless.

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  188. Sarah, I'm so sorry to hear about your FILs passing. My thoughts and prayers are with your whole family. Your FIL sounded like a very special person and I know he will be terribly missed.
    Hugs,
    Susan

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  189. Even through photos your father in law's special spirt comes through. What a great tribute to him and I am glad you were able to enjoy the last quality time you had with him. My heart goes out to you and your family for your loss. Thank you for sharing.

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  190. I am sorry to read that your Father-In-Law has passed away. What a wonderful man he sounds like. You are blessed to have had him in your life - and his influence is obviously continuing through your hubby & like you said, it will continue through your children. You have written a beautiful tribute - I hope he reads it from upstairs. Sending strength & hugs to your family. xx

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  191. What a beautiful way of saying goodbye to your father-in-law! May his soul rest in peace...

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  192. I am so sorry for your family loss. He sounded like a wonderful man. May he rest in peace.

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  193. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your beautiful family.

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  194. the great man taught his great son how to pick a great wife. :)

    you are all so lucky to have each other. he sounds wonderful and love that you had that time with him. xoxo.

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