Thursday, March 31, 2011

(Not) Doing it all

Every once and awhile I like to pause and show you the “real” around here. Sometimes I show you in pictures, but today I also want to tell you how very much I don’t have it all together. :)

I’ve mentioned a few times that our house rarely looks perfect. OK, let’s make that never. Well, OK, maybe about five minutes before a party, but that’s it. So that would amount to about 15 minutes a year.

Fifteen minutes a year, it looks pretty darn fantastic. ;)

But the other 525,585 thousand minutes it’s just…normal. I’ve shown you our normal:

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Uhhh…you don’t have a toilet seat sitting in your bedroom?

I was sitting in the office working on bills today, and this was my view:

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Not awful, cause there’s a cute Bub smiling at me. ;) Just normal. This is actually pretty clean, really. The floor is cleared enough for us to walk through the family room.

What you can’t really see are the cluttered countertops, the island covered in shopping bags I haven’t emptied, two in-between projects on the windowsill (where else would I keep them?), the coffee table covered with toys and a pizza box. You can’t see the damaged spot on the floor, the messed up drywall on the ceiling from a leak in an upstairs bathroom.

I wanted to write this today because I neverevereverNEVER want anyone who visits this blog to leave feeling inadequate – that breaks my heart. But I certainly understand it -- even I read blogs and feel that green monster raising it’s ugly head. I wonder if the house is always that clean, the toys are always put away. How she does it all, with more kids, a bigger house, a full time job. And I’m lucky to keep one room completely clean for a day.

I’m here to inspire. I want to show you how you can transform your home and make it your haven. But I want to be real about it at the same time. Of course, I chuck the stuff out of pictures – and that’s just because I figure most of the time, you want to see pretty, not cluttery.

But beyond the not-always-perfect-house, I wanted to let you all know that there are so, so, SO many days where I feel like I am barely keeping my head above water – trying to do it all. Keeping the house picked up, let alone clean. Dealing with five animals – a fish, three cats and a puppy. Being a good Mom, an attentive wife, a supportive friend. And trying to post as much as possible here on my beloved blog, which has become my business. (Best. job. ever.)

At least once a week, I feel like an bad friend because I haven’t returned an email or a text or a phone call fast enough. There are days I walk into our house and just feel completely overwhelmed with all that needs to be done. Some days I wonder how it’s possible, as a stay-at-home Mom, I can’t keep our home and lives perfectly perfect all the time.

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And then I’ll realize, yet again…dear LORD, it’s normal. As much as I want to do more projects and post more than I do, I choose not to. I don’t do it all – I don’t want to do it all. I crave a better balance in my life, but I’m guessing, hoping, praying this is normal? All mom’s feel that way at times, right?

But when I say I wouldn’t have it any other way, I truly mean it. Our sometimes messy home means I have a sweet four-year-old running around. It means I take time away from cleaning to work on a DIY project – my passion. It means I get to blog and share and write and (hopefully) inspire…as I am doing right now, with my feet propped up next to the pizza box on the coffee table. ;)

So I guess I just wanted to take a minute to say, I don’t do it all,  and sometimes I feel like I really stink at what I do do. :) But I love my life, all of it’s imperfections and messes. I’m just so completely happy to be doing what I’m doing. With the people I’m doing it with – including you all.

I wanted to let you know that. I never want you to think I’m capable of doing any more than you can do. I just show you the pretty more often than not, because for the most part, I like to see pretty on blogs and magazines and TV. I’ve got enough of the real at home. ;)

But I will keep showing you the messes here and there, cause it’s the truth. We’ve got the pretty and not-so-pretty around here, just like every home. :)

And I luuuurve it!!

198 comments:

  1. Thank you so much. I think we all need the reminder that messy is normal. I know I do.

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  2. You are my best friend. Again. Thanks for this, Sar Bear!

    p.s. Me too!: http://www.seriouslyahomemaker.com/2011/02/fess-up-giveaway.html

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  3. Love the toilet seat in the bedroom! Glad to see that I'm not the only one with bizarre DIY materials strewn about the house! Our house is never ALL the way clean. Whatever room I'm cleaning is clean. The rest is messy because the kids are in them. I think some clutter and mess is totally normal and it's impossible to keep stuff immaculate and still craft and have fun with the kids!

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  4. Love it! You should see my house right now! ha ha!
    Jo-Anna

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  5. I have to admit that I love to see a REAL home... a home live in and loved in. Thank you for sharing some reality! (And for the record, I don't have a toilet seat in my bedroom, but I DO have a bolt of fabric that's been leaning against the walls for at least six months... in addition to a ton of other bits and bobs. I promise... no judgments here! :)

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  6. LOVE. THIS. POST.
    I like real stuff!! Thank you for being so genuine. As a mom of two little ones, I too feel like I'm just keeping my head above water most of the time :)

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  7. Hey thanks for showing us reality! I kind of needed that.

    And I'd also like to point out that you said "do do". Okay I'm a mother teen boys and well this must always be pointed out. :-)

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  8. Love you for keeping it real!

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  9. It looks like my home. It is hard to keep it clean with a 2 and 5 year old.

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  10. Sarah you are awesome and normal. We all love ya'! Love the *real* pics.

    Can we see more of your new puppy sometime soon? He is so cute.

    Enjoy the weekend!
    ~Melissa

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  11. Great Post! I love the pretty, but I love the real too - that's why I share my before and after's together. Thanks for sharing! AND you truly are an inspiration! Thank you! P.S. I LOVE!!! your blog!!
    DaNita

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  12. Thanks for the reminder Sarah. I do feel overwhelmed and inadequate from time to time, but it's helpful to remember that I can only do so much, and the most important thing is to be happy. :) You have inspired me -- so give yourself a pat on the back today! :)

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  13. Precious Sarah,
    I love your heart.
    And it feels so good to see your mess, since my house looks like a tornado hit it. :)
    I love the "normal" in you. :)
    xoxo
    Traci

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  14. Dude. I big fat heart you. I've been feeling so overwhelmed and inadequate lately, this is totally what I needed.
    Thanks!

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  15. Not gonna lie, I love the sneak peeks of your cutie patootie son, hehe. Oh yes, and the house...I love those "behind the scenes" pics, too! I'm currently preparing myself for a full day of cleaning tomorrow for an open house party on Saturday. I needed this!

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  16. Thank you for making me feel "normal!"

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  17. What a huge encouragement! Thanks for being honest.

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  18. Thanks for being real and giving us all permission to forgive ourselves for not having it all together all the time! You DO inspire and I love that you show us all the real you!

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  19. just what i needed. you rock! thanks !!!

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  20. Thank you for making me feel like I don't have to be perfect:) Life is to short not to take time out to stop along the way and smell the roses. Enjoy!!!

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  21. This? Best. post. ever. THANK YOU! I needed this. I work full time and have a 2.5 year old son. We moved into our brand new home in 2007 (all whopping 1200 sq ft of it, lol) and even though my husband is a professional painter, the walls are STILL builder beige. I have yet to do ANYTHING with any room of the house - unless you count the thumb tacks left on the wall, serving as a reminder that Christmas decorations are LONG gone!

    My point is -- I have been in a depression funk for years, going through marital problems and all sorts of things. I read your blog and girl, you inspired me to get moving. I am not kidding. YOU inspired me to go to my doc, get meds (which by now have kicked in, thankyouverymuch!) and get to be me again. I have big plans for my home, and I want to start a blog just to log the happenings. I will keep you posted.

    But, seriously? Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

    Emily (amused by life @ hotmail dot com)

    PS: GW is my new BFF because of you! :)

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  22. your crafty blogs are so inspiring, after reading i itch to make a run to the thrift store and dollar store. i love that you are frugal and creative. thank you thank you thank you for being honest and keeping it real. there is a reason i visit blogs like these much more often than potterybarn.com and such!

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  23. Thank you for posting this. I appreciate it.

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  24. I so totally know what you are talking about and more. Sometimes we feel like it is only us but really so many (ok most) moms deal with this daily but somehow we have a shame about it and never want to show it or have someone drop in on us when we are in that state. I did a review today for bibs and when I looked at the pic there were two small boxes on the kitchen table behind the kids (lcd candles that I need to review). For a minute I was like, oh no, people are going to think I am a slob. Then I was like whatever, it is what it is. Nice blog, visit me when you have a chance.
    Mommy Ramblings carly67.wordpress.com

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  25. Thanks for being REAL....and yes, it is normal....unless you are Martha Stewart or someone that has servants in their home!!! Sarah...the TRUTH will always set you free and boy doesn't it feel good?

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  26. Looks like I #22 on the post comments here and I ditto all the others before me.
    It's hard to do it all and be the wife, mom, friend, co-worker, etc....and keep it all looking picture perfect. Thanks for sharing your life and letting us know it's okay to not have it all perfect. Nothing is or ever will be, but we can have fun along the way, right?? One mess at a time!!
    Thanks Sarah

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  27. My MIL keeps a PERFECT house- no spider webs in her ceiling fan, no dust bunnies under her couch- and it makes me feel SO INADEQUATE! (And she always 'brags' how she had perfect pregnancies [my 2nd hasn't been much better than my 1st] and never used a babysitter until her 2nd son was 2). So, from my messy home to you your beautiful (sometimes messy!) home, THANKS!! :) You helped me feel like a good house wife/mom again!

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  28. I have just been inspired! I am going to show my husband a couple dozen of your blogs and pictures and then ask, "Don't you wish I was just like her?" And when he says, "Yes" I will show him this one and say, "Well, I am!!" :))

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  29. Love it, Sarah.

    I had a friend walk into my house recently and go. ..

    "I'm so glad your house is dirty."

    I was a tad taken aback, I'll admit. But I had to be honest:

    "Actually, this is pretty clean for me."
    Her point was that everyone in our 'hood busts their buns to keep a perfectly appearing home, and she feels inadequate. Well, glad I could be the one to make ya feel better! I guess!?! It truly is about a balance in life, though. I like a clean house as much as the next gal, but I like other things, too.

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  30. Yup, ditto! It's so silly how even those of us who move things out of the picture, to take that "perfect" picture and put on our post, still see others "perfect-ness" and can feel the green monster coming on. Or even worse, start feeling depressed or not good enough! I LOVE seeing the behind the scenes and "real" of your world! Thanks for your inspiration...for our insides and outs! ;)

    Rebecca@RootsAndWingsCo

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  31. Thank you for posting that. I have to admit it makes me feel normal. I'm a mother of two, ages one and four and it's a constant battle in my mind of keeping things straight and organized and clean while balancing everything else and working full time. For me, it's a huge struggle and I keep trying to remind myself that it's all okay, nothing will ever be perfect. Anyhow, I really enjoy reading your posts! Thanks so much for sharing.

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  32. Girl you are just so real I love it!! I hear ya with the house never constantly being clean man o man is it a job! YIKES I feel like almost everyday all I do is spend my time cleaning.. BOOO Anyhow I just started following you on twitter as well love your work! If you want look me up my name is allypecilunas on twitter.

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  33. Thanks for that awesome post! I'm sitting here right now looking around the house with its numerous piles of things 'to do' wishing I could have the time and energy to make it look better, and your blog made it all okay!

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  34. I found a little saying a while back that I have posted as a reminder for me - "A clean house is probably an empty house!" I will take the house full of love, life and laughter over a clean house any day and I see you do, too!

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  35. Refreshing. Really. The toilet set made me smile...

    As much as I am for pretty eye candy on blogs, I gobble up these "keeping it real" posts.

    Just today, my one-year old dumped a bowl of chili all over the floor, the wall, and the dog.
    Awesome. He also enjoys #2s in the tub. Maybe I should stop with the chili...LOL...

    The state of my house is often the state of my mind. You know I'm having a rough go when it looks like the aftermath of Christmas morning, every day this week!

    Thanks for sharing this...this has been a day from the underworld today. I really needed this...

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  36. It's nice to know that someone else's house looks like mine, most of the time. My house too, looks fantastic before a party, but most of the time I have toys scattered around from all 3 of my boys, that are under the age of 8. Ughhh! :-)

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  37. Thanks so much for sharing the real reals! It's always nice to be reassured that you're not the only one with messy homes and wild children/pets/husbands/other. Thank you!
    ~Angela~

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  38. Like everyone ahead of me said, Thank You. We know on some level, no one "lives" in those perfect houses, but it's great to hear your version. My house CAN look nice, and it can (more easily) resemble a train wreck – and that's when I try, try, try to remind myself that the kids won't remember that the hosue was a mess, just that I was crabby trying to keep things clean. AND I want to tell you I had a new toilet flapper sitting on my kitchen table all day yesterday. I think I finally moved it to the bathroom counter tonight where it will surely live for another few days until I get around to fixing the toilet!!!

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  39. Ha ha! I was just telling my coworker that I subscribe to all these blogs and can't figure out how you perfect women have more hours in your day? More kids, more classes and clubs you attend, projects completed, clean and decorated homes, attentive husbands?
    I said that I had it figured out and it was PERSCRIPTION DRUGS!
    Ha ha, now I know you just kick the clutter out of the shot.
    Thank you for the ego boosting honesty.

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  40. I wanna be just like you when I grow up. :)

    p.s. bet my house is messier than yours! nah nah!!

    Donna

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  41. Jodi from New JerseyApril 1, 2011 at 3:46 AM

    Hi. I'm Jodi from New Jersey. I love your blog,especially today's, "Not doing it all." I am 49,a mother of three, including two boys, ages 21 and 17, my girl is 14.It's true what they tell you- it goes quick! Don't know if you've ever read the poem- "To my grown up son ?" Google it,( if not,) it puts everything in perspective.Thanks for all-you do a great job!

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  42. I just have to tell you how much I love and appreciate this post! I have really struggled with feeling bad about not being able to do it all, and feel guilty when I hear other ladies talk about how the devote time to cleaning their house, etc. I actually did a post on this same thing last week... http://madeitonmonday.blogspot.com/2011/03/doing-it-all.html
    Thanks again for such a great post!

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  43. Jodi from New Jersey again.Just learning to navigate the blogs. Very addicting...........

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  44. This is SO great to see and hear. No one's home is perfect, and we all need to remember that!! Perfect is boring. Thanks for posting this!!

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  45. Great post! I call your home "lived in". I have to say those homes that are not "perfect" all the time are the most inviting. Those that are museum like clean can be intimidating. Makes you feel like you can't relax because you feel your very presence may mess up their perfect decor. With children this makes for a nerve wracking visit! Love your blog!

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  46. I think a bit of clutter exists in every home to different degrees on said day of the week. Especially for young moms who are on the run keeping a home, running a full time blog and raising children. Your house looks 'clean' and that's what's important. Clutter can be shoveled into a closet and the door shut... LOL

    DI

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  47. Great post! I follow many blogs but do not have one of my own....hope to someday but felt.....inadequate. Really love how you're keeping it real! Thanks so much!

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  48. Sarah, I think all us mommy bloggers should post something like this every few months.

    I was just saying to my husband last night that there is this "pull" for moms (for lack of a better word.)

    If we can't do housework or work-work because a child is sick, there is guilt. It seems there is always a trade off and that dads don't feel it as much as we do.

    I just wanted my husband to understand that as moms, we are often torn between choices. As much as I would love to sit and play with my littlest (and ignore the piles of laundry, ugh) I can't, there has to be some balance.

    So kudos to you my sister, you are an inspiration to us all with your beautiful home, your blog is my favorite decor blog and I lurvvvvvve ;) that you're keeping it real!

    Have a wonderful weekend! :)

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  49. I work from home while wrangling a 2 year old (who I also call Bub, by the way). This may sound nuts, but as someone who was married for 15 years before finally becoming a mother, I smile when I see the kid clutter littering my home. It's a sign of life that didn't exist here for so long -- back when my home was always clean, organized and "presentation ready". I'll take this life anyday :-) Love your blog...

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  50. You're awesome! I can relate to sooooooooooo many things you said!

    Thanks for keeping it real!

    Kaye

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  51. In honor of your post, I am going to not do it all today and feel really good about it too. I woke up early just to do the dishes from last night and then sat down to read your post and laughed out loud. Who gets up at 5:30 to do the dishes? Only a mother trying to do it all.

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  52. When my twins were born, I gave myself the best gift ever...permission not to be perfect. This meant I had more time to enjoy my girls without obsessing over my messy house!

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  53. Well, I just luuuuurve you too. You are always honest and open when you write, and that speaks volumes. I always appreciate it when another blogger opens up and shows us a real glimpse at her life. To blog, you really do have to become a master of staging...I'm really good at kicking all the toys out of the shot now. ;) ;)

    Thanks for sharing today--that was on my heart this week too!

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  54. Perfect post! It's so great to see that I am not the only one wondering why my house is in a constant state of "picking up"...even though I am home MOST of the day! LOL

    Smiles~

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  55. Thanks for keeping it real, Sarah! *Becca*

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  56. I love posts like this and I am right there with you. I would be a very grouchy mom if I tried to keep evertyhing picture perfect every minute of every day. Sometimes you just have to live and let things go, but I still really, really enjoy those 15 minutes of clean and perfect!

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  57. Thanks Sarah! I needed to hear that. I've been wondering how the other bloggers are able to do all their projects, with a young child around, and keep everything tidy. I was feeling like either they had nannies, their child was in day care all day, or they had a house keeper. Really. I wish I was kidding. Your honesty is so appreciated!

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  58. This was refreshing! Thanks for posting!

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  59. I SO appreciate reading this. I wonder why I can't keep up with it all, too... but my toddler is nourished and loved and read to and snuggled and cuddled... and my hubs is cherished and adored...

    And the dishes can wait.

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  60. Thanks girl! It's nice to see a little mess.I think clean all the time would be too much for my family; they would collapse under the pressure. I like messy sometimes..just flop on the sofa & watch cartoons with my boys & munchies! A clean house is awesome but temporary around here. Have a good weekend! JenT

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  61. Off to buy a toilet seat for my master bedroom! haha. I need that to be "normal" like you! Its the latest trend! Love it. Thanks for sharing the good the bad and the messy on your blog. We all love ya for it!

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  62. I am so glad you posted this. I have been having some struggles with "how do these girls keep their house so clean and do everything?" You have now given me permission to just get my painting and crafts done--and not worry so much about the "always" having a clean house. This weekend I AM, I WILL, paint my upstairs and NOT feel guilty about it :0) THANK YOU!!!

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  63. Hi Sarah! Love this post!! I did one similar not too long ago...
    http://cleverlyinspired.blogspot.com/2011/02/i-am-normal.html

    I think that when we all realize we are all in the same boat---it brings comfort and reassurance that we are not alone ;) We are all just trying to do our best...at all the things we have to be our best at!

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  64. well said. it's always great to know that you aren't the only one that puts other things before cleaning and thoroughly cleans before people come over! that is NORMAL, and it makes me feel less "un-normal" to see/hear it from others, too! ;o)

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  65. What? Your house is not spotless? Mine is. All the time. NOT! Sometimes I'm really on top of it for a few days and I then realize that it's all I've done, clean and put stuff away. So I decide to "steal" time for myself or else I'd have no life, like my mother-in-law. The dust, remarkably, is kind enough to wait!

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  66. I haven't read all the comments, but I assume mine is a repeat in some way-but THANK YOU!!!! I love your blog and I love that you are just as normal as everyone else and wahlah! I instally feel more normal.

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  67. Thanks for being so honest and posting how you really live. I do have the issue of looking at pics and thinking "oh my,,,my house never looks that clean" but then I have to remind my self these are "decor pics" not really how it looks most of the time. Thanks for making my day.

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  68. I love the normal mess! Thank you so much for sharing this part of your home and how overwhelming you sometimes find it despite the fact you'd never want to change it! Carolyn

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  69. Phew! I'm not the only one in the world with a toilet seat just.. sitting around.. like it belongs there.. Mine is tucked under the coffee table for the moment until I get off my rump and try to figure out how to attach it to the um.. toilet.

    Your house is beautiful Sarah, even when it's cluttered and -real-. That's what makes it beautiful. The LIVING in it.

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  70. Thank you for this post!!! I appreciate you keeping it real!

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  71. I can't tell you how much this post means to me. The little green monster rears its head all of the time. I love things completely perfect and I read magazines and blogs and wish that I could be as amazing when it comes to keeping my house clean. We have 3 little ones a 2 year old, a 1 year old and an infant. Sometimes I feel so inadequate around here when I look around and see toys everywhere, bottles not fully cleaned out, a pile of laundry that needs to be wash and another one that needs folding. 'Messy' stresses me out and lately I feel VERY stressed out. Seeing that I'm not the only one who allows things not to be perfect makes me feel so much better.
    I almost cried reading your post. There was so much relief that I might just be 'normal', whatever normal might be :)
    Thank you for sharing your life with us. I love your blog but right now I feel like a weight was lifted from my shoulders. I can actually have a slightly messy house and still be ok :)

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  72. Great real post. I definitely struggle with the same. It's hard to not feel bad, but I just have to remind myself that life happens and that is just the way it is. :)

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  73. Sarah, thank you for this post. I've been paring down the number of blogs I'm subscribed to because I just don't have the time to read them all anymore. I already quit blogging because it doesn't return what I put into it. Anyways, blogs with posts like this (honest, meaningful) are the ones that won out and kept me as a subscriber. I just couldn't devote any more of my precious time to reading perfect blogs about perfect women in perfect homes that made me feel bad about my own abilities (blogging, homekeeping, parenting, crafting, decorating). Thank you again. :)

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  74. Thanks, so much, Sarah. It is very easy to get that inadequate feeling as one surfs around on blogs. Glad to know you are human, too, pizza boxes and all! wink, wink

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  75. I LOVE to see the "real" life behind the scenes. In this world of internet, blogging, Facebook, etc...it's so easy to think that everyone else has it all together. When in reality, we're all just trying to do the best we can!

    I actually started a series on my blog called "Truth Be Told Tuesdays" where we all share a "truth" about our lives in an effort to support one another in our imperfections. It's so much fun and I'm trying to spread the word about it because the more people that join in, the more fun it is! Feel free to stop by on Tuesday if you feel like a little "confession." It's good for the soul, right? ;)

    http://happybabydesigns.blogspot.com

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  76. Thanks so much for sharing. When you look back on life, it won't be the painted furniture, the clean house or blog posts that you will remember or cherish...it will be that little "Bub" that is sitting across the room smiling. The days with our children pass SOOOO QUICKLY and you will miss them when they leave the nest, so enjoy every second of every day of your time with them!!

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  77. Oh, wow... that was a big sigh of relief, and ... that was a big smooch to thank you for being who you are! I needed this post. I have become addicted to reading blogs, but YES, instead of feeling inspired, I come away so often feeling inadequate. I think I must be the only one with such a messy house, and if I could only have two full weeks and a handyman and a cleaning crew (who did laundry!), to finally get on top of everything, THEN I would be able to KEEP it that way. But I can never get on top of it with the minimal time I have each day. And so I always feel it's one step forward, two steps back. So, thank you, dear blogger, for showing me your "real".
    Love,
    Michiganhome

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  78. Thanks for being REAL and for making me feel like less of a failure! Hahaha!

    futuredukes.blogspot.com

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  79. Another Thank you. From the bottom of my heart. This is something that I struggle with daily.

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  80. Great post!

    It reminds me of that saying, "A perfectly kept house is a sign of a wasted life".

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  81. Can I just tell you how happy you made me? As I sit here writing, I am looking at a room strewn with dog toys, a table full of folded (but not put away) towels, end tables with coffee mugs and cereal bowl, and my lovely animals lounging on my couches. I am so glad to see a blog that shows real life, because I do beat myself up, wondering why I can't have a house that looks that put together,clean, organized and staged. Living with 2 dogs,2cats, 3 teenagers and a husband....I guess that is my answer.
    Thank you...for being real and showing us your reality!( as well as your creativity!)
    Trish

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  82. Beautifully said!!!! Thank you for sharing your wonderful life!!

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  83. Where in the world did this post come from? You don't need to show us your messy home to prove you are just like us. You do great work, and great things and you should be proud. I hope someone didn't post something to make you think you needed to humanize yourself to us. Your blog is wonderful, your work inspiring, and everything else can be left unsaid : ) Thank you for all you do!

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  84. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU! I totally appreciate it when bloggers do this. It makes me feel like I'm not alone. I too feel jealous or inadequate when I read other people's blogs and see their perfectly decorated and clean homes. I think so many times people are scared to show this side...the side that struggles or questions or is just messy, but it's the messy that I can relate to that I can say "Hey, girlfriend, I get you, I understand...we we've all been there."

    So there you have it a heartfelt thank you from a perfectly imperfect, fellow mom.

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  85. Love this. I have four children and when our house was on the market, it looked great every day - just in case someone wanted to come look at it.

    While I loved having a clean house, I hated the stress of keeping it that way. I didn't want the kids to cut up paper to glue and glitter because it would make a mess. I didn't want train tracks snaking through the hallways or Legos all over the kitchen table because the realtor might call. Playdoh? Forget about it! I was always nagging the kids to pick up, put away, etc.

    House Perfection, if it does exist, comes at too high a price!

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  86. Thanks so much for making this stay at home mom (with college & high school kids!!!) feel a little more normal. I always feel that because I'm home all day people expect the house should be perfect all the time...NOT!!! I mean it's 9am and I'm still in my jammies and everywhere I look is something that got left out. We're just creatively disorganized at the moment!!! Love your blog and thanks for being "yourself", we like you that way! :0)

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  87. Thank you! I'm a single parent of a 3 year old. I always feel like there are so many things on the to do list and only so much time to get them done. I've never looked at your blog and thought anything other then wow, I love her projects, her idea's and her humor.

    Thanks for all you do!

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  88. Thanks for the reminder, I needed it today :) Its so easy to get sucked in to the illusion that everyone else can do it all, why can't I?

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  89. the strange part of all, is that you do inspire to "try" to keep it as perfect as possible!...at least that's what you've inspired me to :o) Hello there! and greetings from Guatemala. I'm Claudia, a non-married, child-less, full time worker, with two puppies, and my mom and a little niece at home. It does get messy! but I do try to get it as together as possible every morning. We have our "hidden clutter" ;o), and try to keep the living room (at least) neat in case someone drops by. It means fewer hours of sleep, and a tired body and mind, but a whole lot of fun. I think I've come to appreciate and love to clean and organize! :o) ha!
    Still, it is so nice (I hope that doesn't come the wrong way) to learn that being messy is also part of life...who is perfect anyway?!
    greetings from Guatemala!!
    Claus

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  90. As my toe throbs from tripping over hand weights when I walked to my computer today (which the kids TOTALLY play with even though they know it's not allowed), I survey my disaster of a room. And I completely agree with you.

    Making your house a home is constant. But having perfect cleanliness is not part of that. More important to me is teaching my kids to be good people training them up the way they should go.

    (and as a dork, I totally had to check your math. 'Cause I've been singing the song from Rent wrong. But you were right! Hooray for you!)

    (and also, I've totally started stealing your "If you notice I'll give you a cookie" line. It's just too perfect!)

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  91. I simply love your blog and your efforts to be sincere. I have 5 kids, a dog, a cat, and husband who share a house with me. I try to keep things beautiful and orderly, but mostly I try to be a good mom and I beat myself up sometimes thinking about how many people do it better and where I fall short. Thank you for inspiring me to keep trying to make our home beautiful, but more importantly, thank you for keeping it real about what living in a home is really about.

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  92. It looks gorgeous..a real house, with people and all their STUFF.

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  93. So refreshing to see a real house! I stress way too much over trying to keep my house perfect all the time(with four kids, two in school and two 4 year olds at home with me during the day). Thanks for taking some pressure off by showing you can still have a beautiful (lived-in) home! You are awesome!!

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  94. sarah you're so precious. i remember the first time you did a post on the 'real' in your home. what a delight! :) as i sit here and type this, getting ready to send four kids off to grandma and papaw's house for a week during spring break while hubby and i gut our master bathroom, i look over and see clothing everywhere and wonder should i clean this up before we leave or just do it when i return tomorrow? yeah. it'll wait. cuz that's real.

    you're darling. it's why i read your blog. :)

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  95. Needed this today. Totally how I feel right now... drowning. Thanks for the reminder that people in the blog world aren't living in a magical world without me.

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  96. Thank you for this. I only have two children, a cat and a dog (and a husband/3rd child) and most days I feel like I'm never going to get it together. I needed the reminder that in blogland sometimes our homes are "airbrushed" just as much as those models on Cosmo.

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  97. My house is always in a constant state of disarray no matter how hard I try. I get overwhelmed a lot. Thanks for sharing your mess! :)

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  98. Thanks for sharing this piece of your heart and your life. I have a busy life and yours is the only blog that I regularly follow, precisely because you are the perfect combination of truth, creativity, and reality. From a perspective of over 40 years of life with children, may I tell you that my adult son's don't remember what the house looked like when they were little, but when I found a very much loved children's book (sans cover and with some pages loose) and showed it to them, they remembered it perfectly. Let's all stop beating ourselves up because of some ideal that may not be best for our families and take comfort in the love we are sharing with them. Lurve it when you are real.....did I spell Lurve correctly?

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  99. You are awesome. That is all.

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  100. We have a toilet seat in our master closet right this very moment. We're cool like that. Woo to the hoo for your mess! I just happen to have an almost 4 year old girl who is just about the best mess-maker I know of but I wouldn't trade her for the world!

    Even though we rarely use our dining room I love that we have it because it is the only room in the house that stays clean! I can go in there and pretend...

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  101. It's as if you jumped inside my head and wrote my words. I was literally sitting on the couch last night with the hubby completely spacing out with thoughts of my ridiculous need for "pretty". I, too, am a SAHM and I spent the entire day moving things around, rearranging, rehanging, attempting to make things fresh and "pretty" for spring. And as I sat on the couch, I was thinking about all the beautiful pictures on all the beautiful blogs and wondering if they always look like that, or if they're throwing dog toys, hot wheels, doll clothes, etc, out of the shot before snapping the picture like me. We know the pictures aren't real life, but it's nice to hear out loud once in awhile.
    Check out my attempt at corralling the chaos here: http://rindymae.blogspot.com/

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  102. LOL, My children are twins...and now that they are 25 and out on their own, my house is FINALLY clean and tidy :P

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  103. Well my friend, you have hit the nail on the head with this post. Nobody's house is perfectly clean all the time (well, unless your a retired little ol' lady with nothing else to do). I know what you mean, I have a teenager and a five year old (boy). Let me just tell you it doesn't get better the older they get. Just different dirt, HA!! Anyway, you are doing a great job. You deserve a pat on the back and maybe perhaps a little chocolate. Chocolate fixes everything. No, I guess I don't do it all either, although most times I feel like I do with, every now and then I take time to play. Have a fabulous carefree, messy house day! You deserve it!

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  104. Thank you for making me feel like I am maybe doing a better job of keeping things together than I give myself credit for. You made me feel normal! :)

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  105. Ummmmm...are you stalking my house? I just told my husband last might that I am feeling like I am not the best at anything except for being imperfect.

    sigh.

    Thanks for understanding.

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  106. I LOVE this post! For the longest time, I felt so inadequate compared to a lot of the moms at my mom's group because their houses were spotless, they serve beautiful homemade meals every day, they're always on top of Bible Study, and they still do all kinds of fun crafts and things with their husbands and kids every day. I was honestly beginning to wonder if they slept.

    And then just the other day, one of them mentioned something about a cleaning person, and the rest of them chimed in as well. It was a giant relief to me to see/hear that they really weren't supermom!

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  107. I really like the color paint that is in the kitchen! What color is it?

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  108. I love this! I get asked this a lot, "How do you cook 3 full meals, design your house & all your projects when you have a 2 year old, a 1 year old and am pregnant with the 3rd in less than 3 years?". What they don't see are all of the things I skipped to get those other thongs done... like not cleaning my toilets in far to long or not doing the dishes, etc. I love it when people are more than willing to admit they aren't perfect & especially SHOW it! Thanks

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  109. ive had a dusty mider box in my bedroom for like a month from a trim moulding project... i keep waiting for my 3 year old to grab the saw:( why is that always the place we put DIY project tools??

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  110. Thanks so much for reminding me that I AM normal in not having a PERFECT house. That we as busy moms can let a few things go. I feel so guilty when at the end of a busy I am laying on the couch at night watching some reality show when I should be picking up all the clutter. It is ok. Thanks for your honesty!

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  111. Thanks so much! It really is encouraging to see the 'real'...I feel so overwhelmed so often and frustrated that i'm not doing all I want to/should (drapes unmade after 10 months, the desk I bought the day I found out I was pregnant and wanted to refinish no farther along than a sanded top the kids have now crayoned and new pulls) not to mention the dirty house and only sporadic home pre-school with the littles.

    But I know I shouldn't compare myself to others...and I should also know that generally bloggers aren't showing their ugly or even average side. Besides, the amazing food blogger/medical resident who's pregnant with #2 and still makes her own hamburger buns doesn't take anything away from me, right? Thankfully, my value is not determined in comparison to her accomplishments. Although, seriously, I'm jealous. But man she posts amazing recipes! :)

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  112. This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Such a similar story, stay at home with four kids and a home business... and NEVER enough time. Looked around my house this morning after taking the kids to school (and dealing with my twins meltdown) and was wondering how do I dig my way out of this. Then, read your blog and my daily scripture and it all makes sense now :) Thank You for sharing the real side with us!

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  113. Your post really hit home with me, this week I have totally felt overwhelmed with all projects to do and I never get to them. Two weeks ago we bought new carpet to lay down on our covered deck (ripped up the old one last summer and never replaced it)when it stops snowing (we live in UT). Empty Curio cabinet since Jan(daughters-move to her house), half painted ceiling in the front room (noticed it was semi gloss not satin like the kitchen)but here's the best one I HAD A NEW TOLIET SEAT BEHIND THE BEDROOM DOOR WAITING TO BE PUT ON, so when I read your post I had to laugh and feel a sigh of relief to know that I am not drowning.
    Thanks for the therapy session and having your blog to enjoy so much.
    Thanks Paula

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  114. I have to admit that the mess makes me itch just a little but there's no judgment here because while my cleaning doesn't usually slip, there are other things around the house that do. I think we need mommy co-ops because I actually find cleaning to be therapeutic so maybe I could find someone who actually likes to paint or do other things I find dreadful and we could help each other out. Thanks for the honest post and reminding us that no one leads the "perfect" life.

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  115. I am sooo glad you did this post. I live in Chicago where people often stop by for a drink unannounced and it kills me that our apartment is never in top shape. I am happy to know that is normal, thank you!

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  116. Thank you for this post! I'm currently staying home with my 4-month-old now, but will be returning to work in a few months. I have no idea how I'll do it all when I have to work. Good to know I'm not the only one!

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  117. AMEN sista! I have 5 kids and get an awful lot done in a day, but, my house never looks perfect!If I can find the kid's backpacks, homework, shoes, and lunch bags every day, we're doing pretty darn well.
    You go girl!
    -Paulette

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  118. Thanks for writing about those "less than perfect" days. We're remodling right now and I feel like EVERY day is less than perfect...sheesh!! And I wrote about it yesterday:

    http://tellerallaboutit.wordpress.com/2011/03/31/renovation-cleaning-fugheddaboutit/

    Love your blog!!! love the Natural you1

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  119. I'm thinking we need an impromptu linky party where everyone takes a pic of their house at that exact moment, as is, with no picking up, no staging, no regrets! Just real, just pleasant messiness.

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  120. girlfriend, if you could see my house today, you'd feel so good about yours! lol :) I'm in the middle of this laundry room re-do and I have "stuff" strewn from one end of my house to the other. YOu gotta make a mess to make it beautiful, I always say. (and when you have kids, it never stays straight anyway!) :) Thanks for keeping it real, no one has it all together all of the time. :)
    Love ya much girl
    Missy
    My Cottage Charm

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  121. This post made my day. I think many of us struggle with perfection, whether we work or not. It's important to make choices--to clean your house, cuddle your kids, pick up fast food instead of making dinner from scratch, or to read a book--so that you have balance. Thanks for the reminder.

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  122. You have no idea how inspiring this post was for me! My home is almost always flipped upside down, nothing in this house is finished, and laundry is piled to the sky! My kids are happy though and so are the hubs and I; and that's what matters most!

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  123. I LOVE this article! I always feel so defeated when the house explodes into messy chaos and when dinners end up being quick and easy. It's nice to have a reminder that messy is normal!

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  124. ahhh.....thanx...i needed that today.

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  125. Thanks for this! So good, so true. Some days a little reflection is good for the soul. We have a lot in common!

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  126. Every hour is a choice, isn't it? Good for you, making choices and realizing that they are choices (you are doing *this* so you can do *this* and choosing NOT to do *this*, realizing the result is *this*). There are "overachievers" in my life who don't fully buy into my more laid-back "choice" philosophy, but I think I'm happier :) You sound like the luckiest person in the world and not only that, you KNOW it!!!

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  127. Thank you so much for this post! I always love that you share the REALNESS of your home...a breath of fresh air in the midst of all the "perfection" decorating blogs. I am a SAHM to an 18 month old and get that barely-treading-water feeling often, but something I have heard and always try to remember is that when our kids are grown they won't wish Mommy had spent more time cleaning the house rather than playing with them. My favorite days are ones during which we make blanket forts in the living room or experiment with baking soda and vinegar in the kitchen...always messy, but ever memorable.

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  128. Thanks, I really needed this post today. Feeling crazy sweeping and resweeping the kitchen floor as the yahoos run in and out of the house. I just feel like I will never get caught up.

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  129. As I sit here tired, having cleaned all day, needing to make a cake for a family dinner, and longing for a shower, I can not thank you enough for this post. Today I have been pretty hard on myself and this was just what I needed to hear. I recently entered the world of blogdom and have begun to ask myself already what do I think I have to offer, I can not even keep up with the every day stuff. When I read your post I was reminded that I am human like everyone else. Just because I have a passion for decorating and gardening, doesn't mean my house always looks like it is ready for a Better Homes & Garden shoot. I have a passion for inspiring and encouraging woman. Hopefully our blogs do that and if they have and we have kept all the other balls in the air and kept God and our family first than I think oh well, the base boards can be cleaned tomorrow and all the ideas taking over my head will get done when there is time and the budget! :)

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  130. Thank you for this post Sarah!
    Such a great reminder that we're all human :) And don't worry - you are most definitely inspiring!

    I was just writing a (soon-to-be-published) post about hosting parties and how a few minutes before the guests arrived I thought the house looked great and was clean and then I noticed two faucets sitting on the floor near the door :) Oops!

    PS. Now I have that Rent song stuck in my head!

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  131. Thank you! I LOVE how real you are! I am a new subscriber to your blog, and I must say I.Love.It.!!!!!!! Thank you for all the advice and brilliant ideas!! C.R.

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  132. THANK YOU!!! I actually posted a similar blog today myself, as a sort of motivation to clean! HA! Sometimes, it just overwhelms me. And I seriously do think that, while stay-at-home moms don't have a "full time job", they have MORE housework to do. Because HELLO?!?! We *and the children* are home to make more messes! It is a hard job. And sometimes, I think we all need to stop and eat a piece of chocolate. :)

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  133. thanks for that!!!!
    cathe

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  134. It's great to know that even your gorgeous house looks "lived in". :)

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  135. Thank you for your post today. I usually keep a fairly clean house but we are in the midst of getting a new floor installed (because of a dishwasher leak) and my house is a disaster! I am glad to get a reminder that it is okay to have a messy house. I have loved this week because I can't clean and so I play with my children more and heaven forbid, relax. Thanks for your inspirational blog.

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  136. It is nice to know that there are other normal people out there!

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  137. Thank you for sharing. My house is always a mess.

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  138. So I have had my house on the market for three weeks. My realtor would like to take pictures of three rooms in my house. I seriously cannot manage to get all three ready for pictures at the same time.

    We had a showing yesterday. That was it. I missed my opportunity! Within 15 minutes of coming home my four year old had taken all of the couch cushions off to "build somethin" Maybe next week we will not be 'normal' and have the house clean! Ahem, clean enough for pictures at least. hee hee

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  139. Thanks! A great post for me to read today.

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  140. I've reading more and more blogs lately, and I have been inspired to do many projects which is great, but I will admit I was beginning to feel a sense of inadequacy. Somedays I feel it BIG.TIME. I appreciate your honesty very much. It makes me like your blog (and you!!!) even more!!!

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  141. ha, that's our house too :) and we don't have little kids running around lol

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  142. Why do I feel like I've inspired this post? :)

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  143. BIG Thank You! Especially from those of us trying to find our way here. Your blog is wonderful and you are awesome to share your world with us. Many times I feel like quitting - that I don't belong. But you have inspired me and I can only imagine how many others. Wonderful post. Bless you girl!

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  144. Thank you for being such a sweet, real person. Even though I think that most people on blogs don't live as perfectly as the pictures show, sometimes I think a few of them actually do and I feel inadequate. It's nice to know here, you made a haven, but a real, living haven. Thank you!

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  145. So glad I read your post...was just looking around thinking...boy i need to skip yard sales tomorrow and clean....NEAH!!! love it.

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  146. I love your blog! Seriously I thought about you today when I was walking around the house shaking my head thinking will I ever get ahead of it?? :-)
    Thanks for sharing

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  147. I am SO glad you posted this. Thank you!!! I am a single mom who cleans houses for a living and so I know how to clean them, but my home never looks like the ones I clean, none of which have children, haha! I think that is key! I love your blog and have been following for about a year now. Thanks again for this post and you have such a beautiful home!

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  148. I LOVE this! I am a SAHM with a 4-year-old, a 6-month-old, and a 65 lb. boxer puppy. =) Our home is our daycare/school/job/etc. My house is RARELY clean, BUT we LIVE in it daily. I want my children to enjoy their home and be allowed to play in it. I keep telling myself that this is the season of life that I'm in and that one day, my babies will be grown and gone and I will be longing for scattered toys to step on. =) I wear myself out cleaning ALL the time, but it does no good. My best friend's house is SPOTLESS 24/7, but they all work and go to school and are never there so she says it's easy to keep clean! Thanks for admitting you're beautiful home is "normal" like the rest of our homes!

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  149. I love this. So many times I feel like my home isnt "whatever"-enough...clean, decorated, fancy, organized...Nice to know people whose homes I love to oogle over more often than not look just like mine.

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  150. The realness is what matters. Thanks for sharing everything! :-)

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  151. The realness is what matters. Thanks for sharing everything! :-)

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  152. Good job being honest. Your "bad house day" is probably my pretty day. But I tend to focus more on the enjoyment of the nicer things....I super love your blog... and your house... and your funny lines... Oh my, yeah... I am your FAN.

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  153. Oh what a sweet post!! I have to admit to thinking that you pretty much have it all together...and I still do!! If your home looked like a magazine all the time with two males living in it full-time (not to mention the animals!!), something would be seriously out of whack in your life!! Thanks for sharing!! :-))

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  154. Just thought you'd enjoy knowing that it's due to this post (just found ya) that I am going to follow your blog :) Because I'm in the same fabulous boat....

    Cheers!

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  155. Thank you so,so much for this post! It truly is such a huge encouragement that you took the time to be real with us! I never feel like I've got it all together and it's nice to know that I'm not the only mom out there who shoves the whole lot of junk to one side in order to enjoy just a tiny little bit of organized loveliness.

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  156. Ahhhh....Can't tell you how much better that makes me feel as I am sitting at the computer trying to talk myself into cleaning this crazy messy house! :)

    Thanks for being honest and REAL!

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  157. I love reading your blog and have shared it with many of my thrifty Martha Stewart-like friends! After reading this entry, I just had to share with you something a friend of mine once said that I'll never forget. She was talking about how she felt like she was always apologizing about her house to guests, and saying things like "This house is mess!" Then the more she thought about that statement she realized "Instead of saying this house is a mess, I'm going to start saying 'This Mess is a House'." I just love that thought and had to share :o)

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  158. THANK YOU for your honesty. I read a handful of organizing and decorating blogs and I find myself feeling bummed out because my house will NEVER look like theirs. But you shared the "dark side" of your home-and it so resembles our home. Stuff here, stuff there, things completely out of place. Thanks for letting us all give ourselves a break and not feel guilty that our homes don't look like a catalog!

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  159. I LOVE your honesty! I think as mums we always feel we need to have everything perfect and we need to do it all and it's not possible! I did a very similar post just recently which makes your photos seem very tidy!
    http://myhandcraftedhome.blogspot.com/2011/03/maybe-little-too-honest.html
    I'll use the excuse that I live in England and our houses are much smaller=less space to hide stuff! :)

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  160. Love what you've said! I love inspiration for my own decorating business & facebook business page but never intend to seem like I've got it all together. That's totally untrue & impossible! Thanks for the honesty & fun reads!

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  161. you are real.. that's what is so appealing to your post! Press on.

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  162. Thanks for this post. I also LOVE your blog. And posts like these are a big part of the reason. It's always nice to see that my "normal" is also someone else's normal in real life. In my previous life I had a very uncluttered home. Now that I am the mother of a 2 yr old, that almost rarely happens but I am a much happier person. Thanks again.

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  163. THANK YOU for the truth - I love your blog and you are such an inspiration!

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  164. Thank you for this. I sometimes find myself getting frustrated when I'm working on a project that the house gets disastrous. It's nice to be reminded that it's ok for things to be crazy when you have kids at home and like to make things.

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  165. Amen! Preach it, sister! It's good to know even with all the beautiful pictures you take, your house looks like the rest of ours :)

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  166. Thanks! Thanks! Thanks! Thanks! I read your great blog, and get inspired. It is even more refreshing to know you live like the rest (most) of us! Keep the good stuff coming!

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  167. I SO needed to hear this today! Thank you for sharing you heart and the honest truth. It is much appreciated.

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  168. You rock Sarah!! I think we all need to hear and see it, because as you mentioned it is very easy to see pretty pics and think it is like that all the time!

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  169. Thanks for this post!!...you were generous and helpful to all of us who are so hard on ourselves when things get messy. We have all seen how beautiful you make things and now you have shown us you can relax in between. Thanks again!

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  170. You truly are an inspiration. I think with the number of posts this entry inspired you get the picture that you said what we all feel. Although my four boys are adults (albeit) still living at home...I tread water to keep my head up every single day. Thanks for your honesty, it is truly appreciated:o) Have a wonderful Sunday!!
    Cheers,
    Carrie

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  171. Well said! There's so much pressure to get everything done and we put the pressure on ourselves. I remember going to a good friend's home for coffee and her kitchen counter (which was usually spotless like the rest of her house) was covered in paperwork, dirty dishes etc. She apologized but I was thrilled! I told her not to worry and that my counter looked similar! Yay! We were both normal and could stop trying to look perfect for each other. What a weight lifted off! We can all have the dream home at times ... but it's good to be realistic and take some of the pressure off ourselves. :)

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  172. Thanks so much for the messy house posts! They make me smile, because my house is totally the same way with 2 and 7 year olds running around! I guess there will be plenty of years to come that I will wish I had the noise and (maybe) some of the mess when the kids are all grown. For now I guess we're just livin' the dream! :)

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  173. Amen Sista! We all feel that guilt! I have a full-time job, a furniture painting business & blog, an 8 month old, and a husband that all demand my time! When I beat myself up about not doing "enough" it's good to know I'm not the only one feeling this way!

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  174. I'm not sure I could have said it better if I tried! Amen Sista!!! Life would be so boring and empty if we spent ever waking moment cleaning and straightening the house. It's nice to come home to a clean home, but playing with our children and spending quality time together with our spouse is what matters in the end!

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  175. Thank you for the reality check. Your site is amazing and I love your style.
    Keep up the great work.

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  176. I almost cried reading this "real" blog. And this is my first time to your site -- but certainly not the last. I needed to hear that so much. I try to remind myself sometimes that my home is a happy place to be, my kids are secure and taken care of, and I'm married to the best man in the world. But I often feel inadequate and in way over my head. Thanks for sharing!

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  177. I just want to say that you are the type of person I truly admire not only for your talent but your honesty and character! I can tell you are the kind of person I would love to be friends with because you are "real!" So tired of seeing the "perfect" side of people when I know its only a disguise....thank you for bearing all and letting me know that we can still be creative in our messy, busy, and imperfect lives!!! (I can also tell you have a Christ centered life, and it makes me even more drawn to your blog! God bless you and your family!!!) Amy

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  178. A book that I am reading from Meg Meeker, 10 Habits of Happy Mothers says the same thing that you just said. What will our kids remember most when they are asked about us as adults? Will it be the clean house or the bike ride to the park? Thank you, thank you for this post. :)

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  179. I guess that must be true for you because I e-mailed ages ago about advertising and never heard back. That's ok though, I'll take my advertising funds elsewhere. You know, where they actually respond to e-mails.

    Go ahead and delete. I would expect no less.

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  180. You're NOT perfect after all, we can still be friends! Well, since we don't know each other, I will still read your blog!!! ;)

    Thanks for showing us that you are normal too!

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  181. THANK YOU for this honest and comforting post! I do like to look at the pretty pictures on blogs/in magazines, etc. but this post truly made me feel good!

    We have just moved to a new house and there are so many things I want to do, so many DIY projects that I want to try out, but with 2 toddlers running around and a crazy puppy, most days are just overwhelming. So I am thankful that you wrote this honest post!!!

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  182. I swear to God. My husband came up to me yesterday and said, "This house is so dirty". I wanted to smack him. After I spent all weekend washing clothes and cleaning our bedroom, making a seat cushion, weeding through a week's worth of mail, cleaning the bathroom and painting a side table for our daughter. His contribution was washing the dishes. Anyhoo.....your photos made me happy. Truly happy. I know we aren't the only people who live in an often-cluttered house. Oh, and why is it that friends always drop in when the clutter is at it's worse instead of when it is neat and tidy?

    Thank you for your constant inspiration. I really mean that. You and Centsational Girl keep me motivated to keep moving forward with beautifying my home!

    Jenny

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  183. I completely relate! I shared a similar thought in a post called "Keeping It Real". My table is always cluttered with things, toys out and about, pillows on the couch askew and clutter piles on every flat surface it seems.

    I want a cleaner/neater home, I want more projects finished, I want fresh & healthy meals for my family and I want time spent *with* my children. There are only so many hours in a day so something (or three) has to give.

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  184. I love this post! I love your sincerity and am so glad to realize that my messy home is normal; that i'm not the only who feels that I don't do enough sometimes and what I do isn't good enough - and those feelings are normal, too. This post really lifted my spirit so much!! Thanks for your honesty.

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  185. This was a really encouraging post for me to read. I love to make stuff, decorate stuff, and work with color. We have the cash to invest in making our house what I want it to be, but I want to do it myself. And I don't have time.

    I'm a homeschool mom with eight kids under 16, and six of them are my students (the other two are under kindergarten age). I am so involved in their schooling all day, there is very little time left for projects, and cleaning takes that little bit of "free" time I do have. So I often look at blog pix and say to myself, "oh, I could do that, I so wish my house looked that way!" I often leave feeling inadequate.

    But you have reminded me that I have eight beautiful blessings with whom I spend my time and if when I die my house never looked like I wanted and I never completed the projects I dreamed of, but I spent time building those kids into beautiful people, then I should be satisfied with how I used that time. Because I love them with all my heart and love what we've accomplished in their hearts, and they are my biggest, best investment of time and energy. Good reminder!

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  186. I'll admit that I have felt inadequate ever since I started blogging as far as time management goes. I have NO idea how people get to projects with children around. There is ZERO uninterrupted time. The only thing that's gotten me through is thinking that maybe others don't have a "disease" (I have fibromyalgia) or aren't making the "I cook from scratch" choices I make. One takes a major toll on my life, the other is simply time consuming. Or maybe they have help with the kids from family members, a cleaning person....I wish I knew. Then maybe I wouldn't beat myself up so much.
    I don't know if I'll ever figure it all out. I'm hopeful....

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  187. I KEEP coming back to this blogpost, just to remind myself to realize life isn't picture perfect all the time, and to stop myself from stressing about it. Thanks for keep it real! That is such a ministry to so many!

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  188. I absolutely love this blog!! You have a beautiful home and I love how you have shown us the normal, everyday mess that we all try to hide for some reason!! Thanks for sharing your ideas with us!

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  189. I just stumbled upon this entry tonight and it was the PERFECT thing for me to read because I was feeling the exact same way this week. Thank you for making me feel like I'm not the only one!

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  190. Can I just say...Thank you for doing this post. I refer back to it often on those days when I look around my house and begin to be hard on myself because it's not perfect and I can't always keep up with our house of a 3, 4, 11yr old and a hard working husband. You've finally made me realize...it doesn't have to be perfect. Thank you for showing me that I am normal and that I'm not the only one in the "baggers club". (That was such a HUGE relief. That post took so much pressure off of me that wanted to run out and yell "I really am NOOOR-MAAL!!" but figured the neighbors might think otherwise.) Your real laundry room post was also a pressure reliever.

    I would love it if you had a category named "Being Real" or "Un-Perfectly Normal" so we could easily find those posts. In a funny way these are sometimes the posts that have made a greater impression on my life. Thank you!

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  191. I know this post is about a year old, but I just read it now and BOY, Did I Need to Read This Today!! Today was chore day and I barely got the minimum stuff done, let alone the deep cleaning. It just seems overwhelming sometimes and I really, truly, deeply appreciated reading this post.
    xoxo
    Bets

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  192. Wow! Thank you for sharing - I've been feeling so overwhelmed and discouraged at myself for not being or getting to be the "Master Blogger", but life just happens. Nice to see that we all share in our being real and it's ok! Hugs!

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