Thursday, July 21, 2011

Measuring Time

When we were on vacation last week, I was reminded how full my life is.

It was just the Bub, hubby, the dog and I, just enjoying each other.

No appointments. No blogging. No work. No DIY.

There were moments when the Bub would turn to me and say something, or I would watch him playing, talking, whatever.

And I would see his face and it was like my heart stopped.

Like I was seeing him all over again for the first time.

I felt like my heart would burst out of my chest.

When he was born, the first line I put on his birth announcements was

“Our hearts are bursting!”

I swear mine is 100,000 times bigger than the day he was born.

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Today, I did something I’ve been meaning to do for more than four years.

I don’t know why it took my so long – it literally took 30 seconds.

I measured my boy and marked “now” forever in time.

My heart aches that I didn’t do this four years ago. Aches.

You know all those pictures you wish you would have taken? All the firsts you wish you would have written down? All the everyday things you think you’ll never forget and you do?

I’m trying to get them all down, trying to slow down time just a bit.

It’s going by ridiculously fast.

It’s just one of those days when I’m overwhelmed with joy because of the gifts I’ve been given.

I don’t feel worthy  – I hope I do him justice. :)

77 comments:

  1. What a beautiful post. My grandmother used to do this for all of us behind the door of her room. When we lost her, it broke our hearts to get rid of those markings. I'm glad you started now.

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  2. Time does just slip by so fast. My youngest had his senior pictures taken today. How is that possible? I wish I could go back in time sometimes and do more of those things that I said I was going to do with them and never did. Treasure every minute with the little one.

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  3. Oh, I love that boy! He is such a treasure. So glad you were able to soak him up on vacation.
    We marked all our boys for several years on our door frame in our last home and it was priceless! I wanted to take it with us when we moved, buy my hubby wouldn't let me.
    :(
    You are a wonderful Mom!!!

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  4. Aww, how sweet! We're a military family so I knew we would never stay in one place long enough to keep the kids measurements on the door. My wonderful hubby screwed an old measuring tape to a stained 1x4 and now we have something that goes to each new house that we do.

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  5. I have 3 children (36, 20, and 17) and 2 granddaughters (almost 4 and almost 2)and I can tell you for sure that time goes by WAY too fast. I started marking their height on the closet wall the day we moved in. It has been 17 years and 4 paint jobs in their rooms, and those marks are still there... and always will be. Before you know it, Bub will be graduating from high school. No joke. It goes by just that fast. That is why I try to blog to my kids and grandkids....put pictures of them, and stories of them...stories of my life and their mom's life...so that they will have it when we are gone....because that, too, will happen all too fast. Make sure you take time every day to make a memory with the Bub....and since you blog, you might blog about your time with him, too... start another blog just for him. I make a book each year so my kids will have part of me when I am gone. Children are the most precious gift on earth. You only get one round in this life. Make it count where it matters.

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  6. Seriously! Quit with the making me cry stuff. That was a precious post, and now I've just remembered what I forgot to do with both of my girls. Oh well, don't sweat the small stuff and enjoy what we have right now, right?

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  7. Holy pajamas does E look like you in that pic. But then i see your husband too. What a great mix of the two of you. I love those moments in time. Those are the most important. Hugs my friend.

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  8. Beautiful post sweetie - thanks for sharing your heart. That is where most of our "stop time" moments are stored- Don't be too hard on yourself:)

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  9. I have tears in my eyes! My little girl turned 4 last week and time does fly. Thanks for sharing!

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  10. I LOVE this post! Mostly because I know *exactly* what you mean.

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  11. I know what you are saying. I don't like that cliche' "They grow up too fast" partly because I know it's true, but I like to savor the moments.

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  12. Best thrifty decor I have seen yet!! Ur awesome Sarah!

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  13. You are precious. I totally know what you mean. Emma turned 2 on Saturday and I've been having those moments a lot lately too. Pure joy. Beautiful pic of y'all (and the pup). :)

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  14. Love this post. I hate how fast the time goes. It seems like you blink and they've aged right in front of you. I always wonder if I am doing enough, being enough, etc. I think as long as we are doing our best, then we're enough :)

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  15. Thanks for making me cry Sarah!! For reals! I was just thinking today how my little girl will be starting kindergarten in the fall. It has flown by soo fast and I'm soo happy we decided to keep her home this past year. Her birthday is a week before the cut off so she could have gone last year. Keeping her home with me one more year was the best!!
    Oh and we have a growth chart that hangs on the wall in her room. It starts at 2ft and as soon as she was over that I started marking her height. I think it starts at 4 months old!! She WAS tall. : )
    Thanks for such a sweet, touching post. I need to go blow my nose now. : ) ~ Catie

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  16. That was so beautiful! Only another Mommy would understand that ache! I have soooo many!!!! =(

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  17. I would do this too. Mine is 25 and I still have him stand by the door when he's home (and I'm taking the door if we ever move). He continued to grow in college. I remember I would measure him in the morning. I've heard that you can shrink as much as an inch during the day. Not sure if it's true....seems possible though. I loved your post. He does look like you.....Lucky Boy!

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  18. Love it. Teary-eyed and everything! Our oldest turned 9 on Tuesday. NINE! We've charted her growth since her 1st birthday (got one of those growth charts you hang on the wall) but we never got a chart for our boys and every birthday I kick myself! Our middle child turns 5 in a couple weeks...thanks for remembering it's never to late to start. :)

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  19. So cute. I will admit it it wasn't for my husband we wouldn't measure as much as we do. I have 2 doors that will be moving with me if I ever leave this house. They have so many marks on them it's hard to tell which mark belongs to who.

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  20. I LOVED this post! You are so amazing! And can I tell you a cheat? If you want to have his heights all on there from before that first one you just marked, go to his baby book and see how tall he was (starting when he could stand on his own) and just measure it and put a little mark on the door with his age at the time. Ta-DA! :D And I only know this because I'm waiting until we get in our "long-term" house to start measuring my kids and marking it on the wall. :)

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  21. (Sniff) Wow, totally crying and promising myself that I'll measure my 17 month old first thing in the morning! We too are a military family and I just bought a personalized vinyl growth chart that's been screaming at me for weeks. Thank you for the inspiration & I hope you had a terrific vacation with your family. :)

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  22. My goodness, this post brought tears to my eyes. It's so wonderful when we can step back and see all the blessings in our lives. Thank you for sharing.

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  23. sweet mamma...time does go so fast. faster than you can imagine. mine are 23,21,and my boy is 14. my girls stopped growing in middle school they are a respective 5'1 and 5'2. my baby is just about 6 foot! you should see my wall....he makes me measure him bi-weekly.
    i always have planned to put it on a more permanent piece of wood instead of the wall. i should get on that!
    all that to say, just have more days like youre posting about..its so worth it.
    thanks for sharing.

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  24. What a sweet post :) My dad used to use a yard stick to mark my height on our laundry room door up until I was about 13. By the way, if you feel like stopping by, I'm doing my first giveaway today, an online shopping spree! I hope you'll enter!
    Bisous,
    Rachel
    http://lovealamode.wordpress.com

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  25. There are SO many things I wish I'd done. I barely remember my younger son's infancy. It makes me sad.

    Good for you for making it a priority!

    I did mark their heights on the wall for a few years. Before we painted over it and sold that house, I wrote down the heights, so I could transfer them in our new home. I can't wait 'til I find that slip of paper. :)

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  26. I love it. It so amazing! I like the concept and the idea of your design.

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  27. Thats so funny...I just told my
    "11" year old this week I need to measure him. I guess it's never too late, gotta start somewhere! Thanks for posting and reminding us what's really important!

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  28. Made me cry!!! My feelings exactly for the last few months. There are so many things I WISH I would have done and I am not a person who focuses on regret. I just want a do-over button to record all those cute things they said, completely fill out the baby books, organize the pictures into adorable scrapbooks.......and time marches on with new memories to creat. :) Thank you for the sweet post. Enjoy your day!

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  29. my cousins used to do that and i started with my kids when my daughter was one. we measure both kids on both birthdays (about every 6mths). i made a wooden growth chart that could be moved to another location/house - which i'm glad i did because we are now remodling our house and i'm losing the original location. you might want to think about doing that especially if you are starting now:
    http://www.marthastewart.com/268804/making-a-growth-chart

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  30. SO beautiful. I've been feeling that way too...it's literally flying by. This has been a summer of slowing down for us...praying for more of those sweet moments for you too, friend (and glad you guys had so much fun!!)
    :-)
    shaunna

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  31. I loved measuring my 4 children on the wall in my kitchen... we got a lot of joy out of it while they were growing up but when the time came to paint the kitchen...I took a long piece of 6' paper and traced every mark and name along with the ruler I had painted next to it. Now I have it rolled up to either transfer to another wall or to save for ever.
    Susan

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  32. WONDERFUL post! & BEAUTIFUL pic!! Thanks for reminding us all how blessed we are with our "gifts" & to treasure the time with them! It's too easy to be busy and distracted when the best times are just sitting back and enjoying the time together!

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  33. I did the same thing you did - got the idea of a growth chart a few years too late. But, I knew their pediatrician would have their yearly heights so called them for that information and added it to the chart to "catch them up." My kids are 14 and 11 now and we love it!

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  34. What a nice post and cute pic.
    ~Enjoy ~

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  35. Oh, honey, that photo of the two of you is absolutely precious. What a handsome little man you have. I love that his jacket has airplanes on it: he matches his room!

    "Overwhelmed with joy" is just exactly the right way to put it. Here's one of my favorite poems, in case you've never seen it:

    The greatest poem ever known
    Is one all poets have outgrown.
    The poetry--innate, untold--
    Of being only four years old. (Christopher Morley)

    I've started a new linky party called Grace Imparted. It posts on Mondays. THIS is exactly the kind of post I am trying to attract--the kind in which people just stop to ponder the gifts they've been given. I would love it if you had time to link this post to that party on Monday. Just a thought.

    I'm so happy for you!

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  36. Thank you for the reminder! My older daughter just turned 9 and I still can't get over the fact that she's halfway to adulthood. I also have the feeling that I hope I'm doing her justice.

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  37. This has me all teary because I can completely relate. My boys are three and the time is going by so quickly. I have been meaning to start marking their height somewhere in the house and this is such a good reminder. :)

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  39. Loved this post. Time truly speeds by so quickly. My son turned 16 this year, got his first summer job, and is learning to drive. Sometimes it baffles me that he's taller than I am now and not still that little boy I feel like he is in my heart. :)

    We measured the kids' heights on a door frame at our last house and I was so sad to leave it. My husband traced it all onto a long strip of butcher paper and we brought it along to the new place. Now we continue to add to it every 6 months or so. And my son has gotten so tall that we have to keep taping more pieces of paper to the top of it! :)

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  40. sweet get the measurements next time you go to the dr and mark them up there its a great history

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  41. Your words echo what most Mom's feel. Lovely post!

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  42. What a good idea! I've seen this done a number of ways, and I need to make sure I do this with my little boy (as soon as he can stand!) Thanks for sharing!

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  43. "When raising kids, the days are long, but the years are short." I have no idea who said that, but it is so very true! How is it that my daughters are now a senior and a freshman? Seems like just yesterday they were so small.

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  44. Lovely!
    I keep meaning to do that with my bebes, too...but haven't finished the project of making the "perfect" growth chart yet. And now that I write it out, isn't that a terrible reason? Get over it Alanna! Hang that puppy up and document the little men!
    I will!!

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  45. Oh, I love this post. And time does fly. My oldest will be a senior this year and my second, a junior. There were days they made me crazy, yes, but when I look back, I see a wonderful tapestry of time spent together. Cherish these days.

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  46. Thanks for the reminder to stop and be grateful for our little ones. (Especially today - when I sent my 7 year old on his first alone trip to grandma's! How is he old enough to do that?!)
    What a beautiful post, Sarah! The content is exactly what a loving mother feels deep in her heart. The genius way you "blogged" about it - the pictures and the beautiful words...this is why so many people absolutely love your blog.
    Also, what a beautiful picture of you guys!!

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  47. What a touching post. My eyes welled up! I have a little 2 year old boy myself and I FEEL what you say. Your heart really does just feel like it can't possibly be any more full.

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  48. We do this at Grandma's and it makes it even more special because not only are my 4 kids on there, but also my nieces and nephews. We mark it on the child's birthday and they love comparing heights (especially my daughter who's been almost 6ft tall since she was 13 - "Look you're the same height as me when I was {2 years younger}!" My daughter has this funny stretching, straightening her spine routine she does before being measured (it adds over 1/2 an inch!). LOL! One suggestion - put parents height on there ASAP and then never let yourself be measured again (so no one, including you, realizes you're shrinking).

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  49. I too think that my boys (hubs and two sons) are the reason that my heartbeats! I love to measure the kiddos, but I didn't want to do it on a doorframe. (I was afraid that our first home was not our FOREVER home) My husband cut a piece of board for me (6' tall by 6" wide) I painted it yellow and marked it like a ruler. It is where we mark all the measurements (we measure on every birthday and half birthday!) This way the little measurements are ours forever, plus it looks adorable in the boys playroom.

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  50. Thank you for the reminder. There is so much to be grateful for!

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  51. Thanks so much for posting this. I have a 3.5-month-old, and I need reminders like this!

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  52. You can cheat. I use my kids measurments from dr appts for their growth charts- easier than dealing with the squirming while they are small. Mine are all in the immunization chart I keep in my purse- do you have them written somewhere? You can add them to the trim if you don't mind that they weren't measured at that moment in time.

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  53. This post brought me to tears because I so understand, I have a 6 and 2 yr old and I'm realizing in the last two years that time is passing at a ridiculous rate, it makes me so sad!
    We have been doing the marking on the walls for 4 yrs now and I love it, it's so neat to see how much they've grown : )

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  54. Adorable post, and even more adorable is "little Bub." Put his name under the marking though! He will enjoy seeing 'his' name there and will look at his name every day for a while if it's there. Trust me. :)
    I have done this for my son on a threshold going into the kitchen since he was one. The whole piece of wood is marked up. I love it. It looks like hell. LOL! My son, now 20, loves it too. I have one more marking to do -- when he is 21 on his birthday. THEN, I guess I have to let him grow up. ;)
    Enjoy the Bub -- as others have probably told you in all of these comments: TIME GOES SO FAST.
    Best,
    Gloria

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  55. Such a sweet post! I don't even have children yet, and it made me tear up :)

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  56. Hi, Visiting via Megan Brooke Handmade..fairly new to blogging. I echo your sentiments exactly when it comes to my kids. Love the candlestick table.

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  57. What a beautiful picture of you and your boy! Treasure every moment! It does go by too quickly! I know a few too many sick children right now.Most recently, my 5 year old neighbor who was diagnosed with brain cancer. I am reminded every day as I pray for these children to also thank God for my healthy children and to never take a moment for granted!

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  58. I also wanted to add....go back through his baby book and mark the heights for each year. That is what I did when I finally started measuring for real. Now I try to measure around the same time each year!

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  59. I love this post so much! My 'babies' are 34 and 27! I still remember that feeling. I measured them on a closet door. When they were old enough, the also started measuring the dogs, the neighbor kids, her dolls...I am moving and have to take that door with me. So, if you think you might ever move, you may want to DIY yourself a growth chart that would be removable. I know you could do a great job with that, just like everything else you do! :) PS. see if your pediatrician has measurements from yearly visits so you can fill those in as well...

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  60. Sarah, I posted about this very thing a couple of months ago (http://ms-smartie-pants.blogspot.com/2011/05/and-then-there-was-1.html) but my son is 20 and was leaving home. I reminded you moms to take it all in, but time moves much too quickly! And funny enough you show the bubs so seldom and I noticed him in the pic the other day with the hammer and thought "oh look, the bubs is growing up" Motherhood is the MOST amazing job. So glad you had a week to take that all in!

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  61. My daughter now 22 years got married to a sailor last year. He deployed and she was home with me until he returned last Nov. I measured her 1 last time. Then she moved in with him, to another state.
    Just this morning my "grandaughter" was over and ask what were all of the marks on Aunt Ericas door.
    It looks like it's time to get out my marker again. I wish that I could find a way to create something with this door. It's time for new doors..but not this one. It's special. <3

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  62. Oh, so beautifully written! Time does go by way too fast. I miss my little boys everyday, but I'm so proud of the men they've grown up to be.

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  63. This is so beautiful! I go through times where I write everything down and times where life goes by and I don't document anything! I need to be better about it for sure!! I usually use my family blog or a notebook at home to document it.


    Thanks for inspiring me! (LIke always!)

    XO, Mallory @ Classy Clutter

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  64. My parents bought a house that was built in 1820. Since the home was built, the families that lived and raised children there marked the progression of their children's growth on a doorframe in the hall. As years passed, more and more marks were added until nearly the entire doorframe was covered. When my parents purchased the home, they contacted descendents of the family, carefully removed the doorframe, and gave it to them as a gift.

    Maybe one day it will be your grandchildren that have their heights marked on that door. I love traditions like this.

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  65. Love your blog! Been following for a while. This is what I did...give a call to his Dr. They will have his heights and weights on record. That way you can add his heights to the wall so he can see how he has grown!

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  66. your blog inspired my blog post and a mention here: http://myoldcountryhouse.blogspot.com/2011/07/marking-time.html

    thought you might a glimpse into the future...to see where your "measuring wall" might look like down the road.
    also - picking your brain...what is the best way you have found to get more followers? clearly you are definitely doing an amazing job - I absolutely adore your blog!

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  67. Oh girl....You made me Cry.

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  68. We have a door molding just inside our laundry room where we have measured our kids since the oldest was four. It WILL go with us if we ever move! Love your blog!

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  69. I've been measuring my daughter on the inside of a closet door since she was about two. We recently renovated and reused all the closet doors because they are solid wood. But I wouldn't let anyone paint over that door! Also, the people that lived here before us used to measure their kids and grandkids on a post in the basement, and I'm never painting over that either, even though I never knew them. I like having the evidence of those other kids growing up in my house.

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  70. LOVE the picture of you three! You both will treasure that forever!

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  71. The first I've read your blog - This story could have been written by me a few years ago.....Do yourself a favor. Start your grow chart on something portable ( years from now, you'll thank yourself) Imagine not having any markings, let alone missing out on 4 years!- you never know when or how many times you might move (even though you think you wont).

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  72. Totally know what you're sayin!! Every year take a picture of your son in the same spot,by a tree.each year you will see how he and the tree have grown. I do long for the football,cheerleading,soccer days.Spending way too much time in the concession stand for the kids,missing mine playing the games.Just enjoy.
    Mary
    RENONFL@YAHOO.COM

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  73. My big boy is 4 yes 3 mos. I know your sentiments exactly. Going up to his room to mark him on the wall this minute! Thanks for the lovely post :)

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  74. What an ADORABLE little boy. Mine will be 2 in September - your post struck a chord with me and made my chest tighten.
    And - LOVE your black doors!

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  75. I haven't read all the comments, so I might be repeating what someone else has said. For five years, I used the back of a door in our house in Maine to mark the heights of my two children. When we moved to Indiana, it broke my heart to leave that door and those memory markers behind. Later, I met someone who had a special tall stick she used to mark her grandchildren's growth. I thought that was brilliant. Better yet, it could moved with me and the memories would be carried with us.

    Such a sweet post.

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  76. LOVE this post. i recently started doing the same thing for my kiddos! we made ours on a separate piece of wood in case we ever need to repaint. does your son just LOVE it? mine goes to check if he's grown almost on a daily basis :)

    http://thecellardoorstories.blogspot.com/2011/05/diy-growth-chart.html

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  77. I am so with you! My dad always did this with me and my brother and I have been meaning to do this with my sons, who are now 5 and 2 years old. My heart also Aches that I have not yet done it, but I will be doing it today.

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